Living a life of self-forgetfulness!

Let My Laughter Resound!


LIVING A LIFE OF SELF-FORGETFULNESS!

As he (Christ’s disciple) is ‘lost’ in Christ’s projects (which always, in one way or another, involves being lost in caring for others), he finds that he is increasingly delivered from the ‘bondage of self-centeredness’ and the ‘bondage of self-preoccupation’.

To the extent that he is delivered from his self-preoccapation, to that same extent does he experience ‘true freedom’, ‘true lightness of heart’, ‘true enjoyment of other people whom he desires to serve’. When he ‘gazes’ at the person and the mission of Christ, he has little time to think about himself and his own selfish interest. And, when he is ‘lost’ in praise and love for Christ, he finds himself wanting to do the same things that His Master does!

Just as Christ came to earth, to ‘seek and to save the lost’, so, as a disciple, he wants, likewise, to be involved in Christ’s projects of ‘reaching out in love’ to the lost and the dying! He wants, like his Master, to be meek and lowly, and to lift the burdens of others, By kind words, by charitable deeds, by fervent prayers, by availability to the lonely and the grieving ones, by generously giving money to the poor persons!

The more involvement he (as Christ’s disciple) has in the ‘world of needy persons’, the less time he has to be ingrown and self-pitying and self-centered in pursuing his own petty projects. As a disciple of Christ, he wants to be out in the ‘harvest fields’, where he can have the joy of ‘harvesting souls’ for the Kingdom of God, The person of reverence (a Christ-centered person) sees all of God’s creation as ‘brimming with joy’.


“Biblical Foundation For The Sanctity Of Human Life!”

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Finding release from the ‘bondage of self-centeredness’!

Let My Laughter Resound!


FINDING RELEASE FROM THE ‘BONDAGE OF SELF-CENTEREDNESS’

How can such a person stand ‘on tiptoe with joy’ when he does not see God as a loving God, when he does not see himself as the object of God’s special love, when he does not see his fellow men as persons who are loveable and who are creatures worthy of being served. He is ignorant of the true dynamic in the ‘triangle of life’ (God, Self, Others).

Only the individual who properly ‘relates’ to God and to Self and to Others – only that person is ‘constitutionally happy’. Happy because he loves God, supremely; Happy because he loves himself wholesomely, not selfishly; Happy because he loves others sincerely, issuing forth in caring.

What others think of him is not that important, for he is living for his God, and God’s ‘smile of approval’ rests upon him. He is ‘free’ in Christ, and he is diligent to serve Christ (and that call of God upon him is ‘no laughing matter’). Because of that freedom that Christ has given to him, he is ‘free’ to give himself away to others (in a self-forgetful way).

To live in this God-centered, humble manner, truly defines ‘real living’. To get one’s ‘Self off of his hands’, means that one is prepared to serve God effectively and to love others truly – and to manifest true Joy and (at times) hearty Laughter!


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Freedom From Real Guilts

Freedom From Real Guilts

Chapter One

Freedom From Real Guilts
"Guilty! Everyone Guilty?" 1 What Are 'Sins Of Omission'? 9
"God Has No Grandchildren — Only Children!" 2 Looking At The Cure For Real Guilt 10
Inadequate Ways Of Dealing With Guilt 3 Finding The Joy Of God's Salvation 11
"The Forgotten Word Of Proud Twentieth Century Man" 4 Experiencing Daily Cleansing And Confidence 12
Severe 'Love In Action' 5 Learning To Forgive Yourself 13
Understanding The Nature Of Sin 6 Discussion Questions 14
The Convicting Work Of The Holy Spirit 7 Discussion Questions (Continued) 15
What Are The Causes Of Real Guilt? 8    

Romans 3:9-20

"Guilty! Everyone Guilty?"

Dr. Karl Menninger, in his book 'Whatever Became of Sin?' begins his first chapter with an intriguing illustration. On a sunny day in September, a stern-faced, plainly dressed man could be seen standing still on a street corner in the busy Chicago Loop. As pedestrians hurried on their way to lunch or business, he would solemnly lift his right arm, and pointing his finger at the person nearest him, shout the single word 'GUILTY!' Notes Menninger, "Then without any change of expression, he would resume his stiff stance for a few moments before repeating the gesture. Then, again, he would raise his arm, point, and solemnly pronounce the word 'GUILTY!' to the passerby. The effect of this strange pantomime on the passing strangers was extraordinary, almost eerie. They would stare at him, hesitate, look away, look at each other, and then at him again: then hurriedly continue on their ways.

"One man, turning to another, exclaimed: 'But how did he know?'

"No doubt many others had similar thoughts. How did he know, indeed?

"Guilty!' Everyone guilty? Guilty of what? Guilty of over parking?

Guilty of lying? Guilty of unfaithfulness to a faithful wife? Guilty only of evil thoughts – or evil plans?" (Whatever Became of Sin? pg. 1,2)

Think of the havoc that guilt produces! Unrest, agony of mind, severance of relationships, ineffectiveness in creative work, and on and on!

Romans, chapters 1-3, is written primarily to contrast the righteousness of God's character with the sinfulness of man's character. The universality of sin among all humanity is the devastating conclusion of these three chapters. Chapter one is a description of 'down-and-out' Gentile (pagan) sinners, morally perverted and grossly immoral. Chapter two is a description of self-righteous, hypocritical Jews who prided themselves in their racial descent, and claimed God's special favor because Abraham was the father of their faith. Chapter one and two of Romans reveal two sides of one coin. The 'coin' is sin. One side of the 'coin' is the life of sensuality. The other side of the 'coin' is the life of self-righteous morality. Both ways of life are condemned by God. Neither the down-and-out sinner nor the up-and-out sinner can gain God's approval. Both the sins of the flesh and the sins of the spirit bring God's judgement. Irreligious passion and religious hypocrisy both bring God's severe judgement. Sinful actions and sinful attitudes are alike condemned. The sensual sins and the sophisticated sins alike are scrutinized. Neither the life of paganism nor the life of religion can gain God's approval. The repulsive life of sensual perversion and the respectable life of self- righteous morality are equally offensive to the all-holy God, and both ways of life lead to the same eternal destination!

"O God, forgive me for secretly thinking that my own 'righteousness' in some way makes me more acceptable to you. I exchange the filthy rags of my own self-righteousness for the pure garments of thy holiness and righteousness!"

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: The worst enemy of Christ-centered Christianity is self-centered religion!

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John 8:17-47

"God Has No Grandchildren — Only Children!"

There are two major flaws in attempting to gain God's approval by a life of outward morality.

First, the man of self-righteous morality is shallow in his understanding of the nature of sin. He can easily condemn the immoral behaviour of 'out-and-out' sinners. Adultery, stealing, cheating, murder, and other such actions are easily and rightly condemned. But the man of morality finds it difficult to diagnose the universal disease of all mankind – the disease of self-righteousness and self-centeredness. ''The thing that is deeply wrong with human nature is not that some people commit adultery, and some steal, but that all of us are self-centered — the decent and the indecent, the nice and the nasty. Manners, polish, refinement, and culture only cover the disease, like rouge on the face of a woman dying of anemia. They can't affect the deadly disease underneath." (Questions People Ask About Religion, William Sangster, pg. 58)

The second flaw in the man of self-righteous morality is his hypocrisy. Of the self-righteous Jews, God says, ''You are just as bad (as the Gentiles). When you say they are wicked and should be punished, you are talking about yourselves, for you do these very same things… God will punish the Jews for sinning because they have his written laws, but don't obey them. They know what is right, but don't do it. After all, salvation is not given to those who know what to do, unless they do it." (Romans 2:12-15, Living Bible)

At the time of my conversion, I was an 'up-and-out' sinner. I was living a morally respectable life, with no noticeable 'bad' habits, and attending Church services three times a week. I read the Bible, memorized Bible verses, 'said' prayers, and perform my share of 'good deeds'. I believed that because I was a fifth generation Free Methodist, I was morally acceptable to God and that God would automatically let me go to heaven. I, like the morally upright Jews described in Romans, felt that God favored me. I reasoned that because I didn't indulge in grossly immoral sins, that surely I was acceptable enough to God! The day came, however, when I realized that God has no 'grandchildren', only children. A second-hand experience of God, through my godly mother, would never suffice! I needed personally to repent of my sins-my sinful attitudes, my pride, my self-righteous claims, my dependence upon morality alone to save me. I realized that 'up-and-out' (religious) sinners needed God just as much as 'down-and-out' (irreligious) sinners. One kind of sinner can go to hell as quickly as the other kind!

If all are sinners, is there any hope? Wrote Paul, ''Yes, all have sinned; all fall short of God's glorious ideal; yet now God declares us 'not guilty' of offending him if we trust in Jesus Christ, who in his kindness freely takes away our sins." (Romans 3:23-24 Living Bible)

"O God, I see from your Word that it is not the circumstances of my birth that make the difference; it is the crisis of my spiritual rebirth that determines my destiny for time and eternity!"

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: He who is born once, dies twice–in time and eternity! He who is born twice-physically and spiritually-dies only once in time!

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Genesis 3:1-24

Inadequate Ways Of Dealing With Guilt

There are many guilty people who claim innocence in regards to sin. Some rationalize sin, and say "I am as good as many church folks!" True, but irrelevant! What does this statement prove? God is our standard, not other people! Hypocrites will keep many people out of heaven!

Some project the blame of their sins onto someone else – that is, they scapegoat their sins. lilt is easy enough to find all kinds of defenses behind which to seek to hide. We may blame our sins on our heredity, on our environment, on our temperament, on our physical condition." (Daily Study Bible; Barclay; pg. 39; I John) ''We ascribe the responsibility to a group, we offer up scapegoat sacrifices, we perform or partake in dumb-show rituals of penitence and atonement." (Whatever Became of Sin?; Menninger; pg. 17)

"At three I had feeling of 
Ambivalence toward my brothers, 
And so it follows naturally 
I poisoned all my lovers. 
But now I'm happy; I have learned 
The lesson this has taught; 
That everything I do that's wrong 
Is someone else's fault."

Have you heard people try to escape personal moral responsibility by saying, 'The devil made me do it!"?

It is bad enough to rationalize sin. It is perhaps worse to blame others for our actions of moral irresponsibility. Worse yet, is to be callously indifferent to sin and sin's consequences. Notes Barclay, "At first a man regards some wrong thing with horror; the second stage comes when he is tempted into doing it, but even as he does it, he is still unhappy and ill at ease and very conscious that it is wrong; the third stage is when he has done the thing so often that he does it without a qualm." (Daily Study Bible; Barclay; Ephesians; pg. 114)

There are those who "claim that sin has no effect upon them, who say that they can sin and take no harm; who insist that they can take their pleasures, and, if need be, make their mistakes and emerge none the worse for them". (Daily Study Bible; I John; Barclay: pg. 39) In other words, there are those who feel that they can sow 'wild oats' and yet never have to 'reap wild oats'. They do not see the 'cause and effect' of sin! Paul wrote, "Don't be misled: remember that you can't ignore God and get away with it: a man will always reap just the kind of crop -he sows! If he sows to please his own desires, he will be planting seeds of evil and he will surely reap a harvest of spiritual decay and death; but if he plants the good things of the Spirit, he will reap the everlasting life which the Holy Spirit gives him." (Galatians 6:7-8 Living Bible)

"O God, not to deny them or to rationalize them. Help me to accept personal moral responsibility for my wrongs, rather than to 'scapegoat' them onto someone else. Then, true confession of my sins shall lead to complete resolution of my guilt and total healing of my soul!"

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: The pain of confession will lead to the pleasure of conversion!

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John 9:13-41

"The Forgotten Word Of Proud Twentieth Century Man"

In the last devotional we looked at various inadequate ways to deal with guilt. Some rationalize sin. Some project the blame onto others. There are some who are callously indifferent to sin and to sin's consequences. And there are still others who outrightly deny the very existence of sin. They deny the reality of guilt and declare that what one feels is not real guilt, but only guilt feelings or guilt impulses. Some psychiatrists have gone so far as to say that guilt feelings or anxiety feelings are caused because a person secretly wants to commit certain acts but dares not because of parental or societal restrictions. Thus, according to their theory, society's restrictions are mainly to blame for people's 'guilty feelings'. Some belittle the idea of an objective Moral Law such as the Ten Commandments.

Notes Paul Rees, "Someone ought to set up a 'Bureau of Missing Words'. If we had such an institution, somewhere on its dust-laden shelves would be found the word 'sin'. It is the forgotten word of proud twentieth century man… There is simply no end to the lengths we will go in building a silky vocabulary that leaves out the serpent-hissing word – sin… The one thing that most of us are stubbornly unwilling to do is to locate the troubles of human society where they really are – inside of our own prideful, peevish, perverse hearts, with their wicked unbelief that turns away from God's Christ and serves other gods instead" (The Word of The Lord Came Unto Me Also; pg. 160,161)

Our Scripture reading for today records Jesus' conversation with the Pharisees who claimed to be innocent, although Jesus knew they were guilty. They denied their sin, and were barred from God's forgiveness! "Then Jesus told him (the healed blind man), 'I have come into the world to give sight to those who are spiritually blind and to show those who think they see that they are blind.' The Pharisees who were standing there asked, 'Are you saying we are blind?' 'If you were blind, you wouldn't be guilty,' Jesus replied. 'But your guilt remains because you claim to know what you are doing. '" (John 9:39-41 Living Bible)

Comments Barclay, ''The man who is conscious of his own blindness, and who longs to see better and to know more, is the man whose eyes can be opened and who can be led more and more deeply into the truth. The man who thinks he knows it all, the man who does not realize that he cannot see, is the man who is truly blind, and who is beyond hope and help. Only the man who realizes his own weakness can become strong. Only the man who realizes his own blindness can learn to see. Only the man who realizes his own sin can be forgiven." (Daily Study Bible; John: vol. 2; pg. 58; Barclay)

"Almighty God, awaken me to my true moral condition. Let me see myself, not only as I am but as what I can become through your transforming power. I am a great sinner in need of a great Saviour. Where sin in my life abounds, your forgiving grace super abounds! I claim your forgiveness for all my sins!"

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: The Holy Spirit has come into the world 'to disturb the comfortable, and to comfort the disturbed'. I will allow Him to disturb me now, that He may comfort me eternally!

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Matthew 23:1-38

Severe 'Love In Action'

What is the answer to the problem of complacency which we described in the last devotional? Complacent and 'blinded' persons (John 9:41) need to be disturbed by the Holy Spirit. Someone said that the Holy Spirit has come to 'disturb the comfortable and to comfort the disturbed'. Such persons need conviction of sin. They need to stop rationalizing sin, to stop denying sin. They need to see the seriousness of self-deception: "If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us." (1 John 1:8) These persons need to humble themselves and confess their sins, in true repentance, following an awakening of the Holy Spirit. "And when he (the Holy Spirit) has come He will convince the world of its sin, and of the availability of God's goodness, and of deliverance from judgement." (John 16:8 Living Bible)

It is the Holy Spirit's ministry to convict of sin. It is important to realize the nature of sin. The complacent need to be disturbed. There must be an awakening of guilt, before there can be a resolution of guilt. It is the work of the Holy Spirit to awaken in man a wholesome sense of guilt, which might be likened unto spiritual fever which is intended to motivate one to go to a doctor – Jesus!

"The repression of conscience, the reflex of self-justification and the projection of guilt upon others, are only false solutions to the problem of guilt… The only true solution, both from the psychological standpoint and in the light of the Bible is the reverse of this, namely, the acceptance of our responsibilities, genuine recognition of our guilt, and repentance and the receiving of God's forgiveness in response to this repentance.

"To tear men from this impossible situation and to make them capable once more of receiving grace, God must therefore first of all reawaken within them "the repressed guilt. This is the positive significance of the sombre, severe and threatening pages of the Bible…

If Jesus Christ Himself, speaks with an implacable severity which is the source of much misunderstanding, because it seems to be contrary to the love of God. This severity can only be understood if we are aware of its ultimate aim. It aims, not to suppress the arrogant sinner, but to arouse his sense of guilt, and so to humble him, thereby opening for him the way of grace," (Guilt and Grace; Tournier; pg. 142)

In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus shifts guilt from the mere formal level of the ACT to the deeper level of the MOTIVATION. Jesus teaches that outward respectability may cover an inward impurity. A good action can have bad motives. Jesus' scrutiny and seeming harshness is really 'love in action' for the purpose of awakening suppressed guilt to produce healing.

"O God, deliver me from self-delusion. Help me to confess my sins openly, in order that I might know the joy of full forgiveness and the peace of total reconciliation. 'Search me, 0 God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.' In Jesus' name. Amen."

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: God always acts in love towards sinners – severely towards the complacent and soothingly towards the repentant. I will be repentant!

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Matthew 5:21-42

Understanding The Nature Of Sin

The Holy Spirit is the third person of the Trinity. It is the work of the Holy Spirit to continue the ministry of Jesus in the world today.

The Holy Spirit convicts of sin. ''When he comes, he will convict the world of guilt in regard to sin and righteousness and judgement." (John 16:8 NIV) The word that John uses of the work of the Spirit "is the word which is used for the cross-examination of a witness, or a man on trial, or an opponent in an argument. It has always this idea of cross-examining a man until he sees and admits his errors, or acknowledges the force of some argument which he had not yet seen… Now clearly such cross-examination can do two things – it can convict a man of the weakness of his case, and the strength of the case which~ up to this time, he has opposed. In this passage we need both the meanings; we need both convict and convince." (Daily Study Bible; John vol. 2; pg. 192; Barclay)

It is the work of the Holy Spirit to convict man of his sin, and to convince a man of his own weakness and of Christ's strength.

The Spirit of God, speaking through the Holy Scriptures, convicts man of inward attitudes and sinful desires against which there is no civil law. Civil laws are made against murder, but only the Spirit can convict a man for anger. Civil laws can convict a man for perjury and fraud, but only the Spirit of God can convict a man of malice and resentment. There are civil laws against adultery, but who, other than the Spirit of God, can convict one of lustful desires and impure thoughts? Laws against stealing are made by society, but only God's Spirit can convict one of the wrong in covetousness, envy, and jealousy. What passes the scrutiny of man, does not pass the scrutiny of God. Jesus said that the Spirit convicts the world of sin because the world does not believe in Him. One may not be a murderer, or an adulterer, or a thief', but if he does not truly believe in Christ, that person stands condemned. "Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe stands condemned already because he has not believed in the name of God's one and only Son." (John 3:18 NIV)

Jesus said that the Spirit convicts the world of sin because the world does not believe in him. In God's sight the worst sin of all is unbelief. The most respected man of the world may be the chiefest of sinners, for he may be the man who has sunk deepest in the mire of unbelief.

In understanding the Spirit's conviction, one must first realize that conviction is personal. Says one, "He (the Holy Spirit) undertakes to convince every man of his own utter sinfulness – to convince him that his individuality is as fully recognized by God in the sinfulness of the world as was that of Adam in the first transgression, or as though he were the only one in all the world who had ever sinned." (The Holy Spirit, A Study; Hogue; pg. 154)

"Father, I come to you with a receptive heart and an open hand to receive your gifts of divine grace. I stand convicted of my own inadequacies, and convinced of the adequacy of your grace. What passes the scrutiny of man cannot pass your scrutiny. I confess my hidden sins in order to receive your revealed mercy."

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: I will not allow society's approval of my outward conduct to blind me to my need for God's cleansing of my inward condition!

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John 16:5-16

The Convicting Work Of The Holy Spirit

In the last devotional we said that conviction of sin is first personal. Next, we can say that conviction is guilt-producing. What made the crowd to whom Peter preached feel pricked in their hearts (Acts 2:37)? Before this time, the people in this crowd felt comfortable and complacent and even thought they had done God a service by crucifying the professed Messiah – Jesus. It was the Holy Spirit that made them realize that they had committed a terrible sin in crucifying the very Son of God! It was the Holy Spirit that made them cry out, under the preaching of Peter, "What should we do?" They saw themselves as God saw them, and "they were moved to the depths of their hearts." (Acts 2:37 Berkley)

Third, it is the Holy Spirit who allows the concealed sin of the sinner to be exposed. Again, the Spirit's purpose in this is redemptive. Repressed guilt of hidden sin must be exposed in order for healing to be affected. The Bible says, "Be sure your sin will find you out." The following true account interestingly describes this truth. "A few years ago The Times reported a strange case of crime in a certain German town. A lady in that town found a basket on her doorstep, and the basket contained a pigeon. There was a note also inside, an urgent, imperative, threatening note which said that if the lady did not fasten a certain sum of money to the clip on the pigeon's leg and release the bird immediately, her house would be burnt down that night. The lady immediately informed the police and the police acted with amazing rapidity… They chartered two aeroplanes and having tied a streaming ribbon to the bird's neck they released the bird and instructed the pilots to pursue it. The pigeon rose in the air and wheeled round several times before it finally took its course. The inhabitants of the town… stood in amazement at the strange gyrations of the two aeroplanes and feared for their church steeple; but as soon as the pigeon flew on a direct course the aeroplanes were in hot pursuit, while the police followed, as best they could, in a high-powered car below. Presently the pigeon flew down to a loft and one of the aeroplanes took a photograph of the spot while the other dropped a note to the police. The police dashed to the house and discovered two brothers untying the tell- tale ribbon in feverish haste from the bird's neck and they were placed under immediate arrest. The men protested, however, that the bird was not theirs. 'It just flew into our loft', they said, 'it is not our bird.' 'Very well,' said the officer, 'we will test that', and he ordered the pigeon to be taken away and released from a distant spot… and it came home. A second time it was taken away and a second time it came home. A third time – and a third time it came home. And every time… it deepened the certitude of their guilt. Finally, they broke down arid confessed… SIN IS LIKE THAT. IT COMES HOME." (Daily Readings; William Sangster; pg. 57)

"O God, my sins – even the secret sins of my heart – are naked and opened unto the eyes of Him who sees all and who knows all! Where can I go to hide from your presence? Nowhere, for you fill the universe with your presence! I confess even my hidden sins to you. In Jests' forgiving name. Amen."

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: The One who knows all is ready to forgive all – if I openly confess my sins to Him!

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1 John 3:4-10 James 4:17

What Are The Causes Of Real Guilt?

Notes Paul Tournier, "'False guilt' is that which comes as a result of the judgements and suggestions of men. 'True guilt' is that which results from divine judgment." (Guilt and Grace pg. 67 in 'The Best of Paul Tournier)

One cause of true guilt is transgression against the known laws of God. "Whosoever committeth sin transgresseth also the law; for sin is the transgression of the law." (1 John 3:4)

What is the meaning of the 'Laws' of God? Using the Bible as a whole to interpret this, we can say that 'Laws' refer to at least two areas: the Laws of Morality (Exodus 20 – the Ten Commandments) and the Laws of Relationship:; (Matthew 22:37-40 – Love for God, Neighbor, Self).

The Laws of Morality (Ten Commandments) can be 'boiled down' to one word – 'Respect'. The first four commandments refer to Respect for God, and the last six commandments refer to Respect for Others. To violate the Laws of Morality is to violate the call to respect for life. To transgress against the known laws of Respect (Ten Commandments) is to bring guilt to one's soul.

The Law of Relationships is only an amplified form of the Laws of Morality. "For this, Thou shalt not commit adultery, Thou shalt not kill, Thou shalt not steal, Thou shalt not bear false witness, Thou shalt not covet; and if there be any other commandment, it is briefly comprehended in this saying, namely, Thou shalt love they neighbour as thyself. Love worketh no ill to his neighbour therefore love is the fulfilling of the law." (Romans 13:9-10)

Love is the supreme Law – love for God, love for others, and love for one's self.

Not to surrender fully to God in love is to sin against God. Not to care compassionately for others is to sin against one's neighbor. Not to sincerely love oneself is to sin against ones own personhood. Thus, guilt is incurred when one is not truly loving God, loving others, and loving oneself. Lovelessness is sin!

Prayerlessness is a form of lovelessness and is sin. Said Samuel to the nation of Israel, "As for me, far be it from me that I should sin against the Lord by failing to pray for you." (1 Samuel 12:23)

Failure to do the good we should have done also constitutes sin, according to James 4:17. "Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin." These sins are sometimes called 'sins of omission' in contrast to the 'sins of commission' which is described in I John 3:4. Jesus gave the Golden Rule: "Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets." (Matthew 7:12)

"O God, the more I understand the nature of sin, the more I sense my need for your forgiveness. I have broken most of the Ten Commandments. I have failed to love you supremely, to love myself wholesomely, and to love others sincerely. I do not ask to be treated justly. I ask rather to be treated mercifully!"

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: "The Lord is compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, abounding in Love… He does not treat us as our sins deserve." (Psalms 103:8, Psalms 103:10)

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Matthew 7:12; Matthew 25:31-46; James 4:17

What Are 'Sins Of Omission'?

Jesus gave the Golden Rule: "Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets." (Matthew 7:12)

Notes Barclay, lilt is not difficult to find many parallels to this saying in its negative form… Many voices had said, 'Do not do to others what you would not have them do to you', but no voice had ever said, 'Do to others what you would have them do to you…

"When this rule is put positively, when we are told that we must actively do to others what we would have them do to us, a new principle enters into life, am a new attitude to our fellow-men. It is one thing to say, 'I must not injure people; I must not do to them what I would object to their doing to me.' That, the law can compel us to do. It is quite another thing to say, 'I must go out of my way to help other people and to be kind to them, as I would wish them to help and to be kind to me.' That, only love can compel us to do. The attitude which says, 'I must do no harm to people', is quite different from the attitude which says, 'I must do my best to help people'." (Daily Study Bible; Matthew; Barclay; pg. 280)

Failure to do practical works of compassion is also considered serious sins of omission which incur both guilt and eventual judgment from God. Some of Jesus' strongest teaching on the sin of omission is found in Matthew 25. "For' I was an hungered, and ye gave me no meat: I was thirsty, and ye gave me 'no drink: I was a stranger, and ye took me not in: naked, and ye clothed me not: sick, and in prison, and ye visited me not. Then shall they also answer him, saying, Lord, when saw we thee an hungered, or athirst, or a stranger, or naked, or sick, or in prison, and did not minister unto thee? Then shall he answer them, saying, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye did it not to one of the least of these, ye did it not to me." (Matthew 25:42-45)

Good intentions are good, but good intentions must find good expressions.

"'A bell is not a bell til you ring it, 
A song is not a song til you sing it. 
Love in your heart is not put there to stay, 
Love is not love til you give it away."

"The guilt of omission… comprises all that we had dreamed and have not attained, the poems shoved into a secret drawer whim still have a few lines missing or a few corrections to be made; it comprises the promises made in the mystical impetus of a short-lived moment; all that we have attained only incompletely, begun and abandoned; all that is unfinished, timid, unexpressed, shapeless," (Guilt and Grace; Paul Tournier; pg. 52)

"Lord God, be merciful to me, a sinner. I confess all my sins to you – the sins I remember and the sins I don't remember, my sins of commission and my sins of omission. Not only have I transgressed against your visible laws, but I have, even worse, broken your heart by being indifferent to your love. Give me not only forgiveness for what I have done – transgression – but impart to me strength to do what I haven't done – deeds of compassion!

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: God will enable me to translate my good impressions and my good intentions into good expressions!

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Psalms 32:1-11

Looking At The Cure For Real Guilt

Psalms 32 tells us that unconfessed sins have tragic results, in terms of both the body and the soul. Increasingly it is being shown that hidden, suppressed, and unconfessed sin infects the body as well as the soul. David wrote of the result of his own unconfessed sin: "When I kept silence, my bones waxed old through my roaring all the day long." (Psalms 32:3)

Guilt impairs the soul as well as the body. Guilt produces within man a sense of God's displeasure. Man is made for God and remains restless until he finds rest in God. Guilt causes man to avoid his own best Friend (Jesus Christ), and makes that Friend out to be an enemy!

Guilt also brings to man the sense of divine conviction. The hand of God rests heavy upon the sinner: "For day and night thy hand was heavy upon me: my moisture is turned into the drought of summer." (Psalms 32:4)

What is the cure of real guilt? Psalms 32:5 is the answer to coping with guilt: "Then I acknowledged my sin to you and did not cover up my iniquity, I said, 'I will confess my transgression to the Lord' – and you forgave the guilt of my sin."

"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." (1 John 1:9)

Notes Dr. Karl Menninger, "If the concept of personal responsibility and answerability for ourselves and for others were to return to common acceptance, hope would return to the world with it!" (Whatever Became of Sin?; Menninger; pg. 188)

How is real guilt dealt with? David knew by experience: "acknowledged my sin unto God… I will confess my transgressions unto the Lord." (Psalms 32:5) There is no attempt to escape personal moral responsibility. The blame is not put on one's environment, heredity, background, society, parents, or friends. Says Dr. Boisen, perceptive psychiatrist, "My observation is that the patient who condemns himself, even to the point of thinking he has committed the unpardonable sin, is likely to get well. It is the patient who blames others who does not get well… Self-blame, even when it leads to severe psychosis, means the recognition that something is wrong and the acceptance of one's responsibility for the difficulty. The emotional disturbance which follows is then analogous to fever or inflammation in the body. It is not an evil but a manifestation of nature's power to heal" (quoted in 'The Crisis In Psychiatry and Religion; O. Hobart Mowrer; pg. 66) Real guilt comes, not from acts which the individual would commit but dares not (Freudian psychology), but from acts which he has committed but whishes that he had not committed (Christian view). Therefore, confession of sin to God is the only way to find deliverance from real guilt!

"Merciful Father, your Word teaches me that you forgive all my sins, and heal all my spiritual infirmities, and redeem my life from the pit, and crown me with love and compassion (Psalms 103:3-4) – if I am willing to confess all my sins to you in the spirit of true humility and repentance. Glory!"

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: As far as the east is from the west, so far has the Lord removed my transgressions from me! (Psalms 103:12)

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Psalms 51:1-19

Finding The Joy Of God's Salvation

Acknowledgement of a life of transgression which leads to a sincere confession of sin is the first step towards a full and abundant life, free from the plague of debilitating guilt! Involvement in earnest prayer is always necessary if there is to be release from guilt. David confessed to God: "Against thee… have I sinned, and done this evil in thy sight." (Psalms 51:3) He spoke directly to God in prayer. David's guilt was not imaginary guilt; it was real guilt. He had broken God's law ('Thou shalt not commit adultery', etc.). Such guilt could only be resolved by confessing his sin to God – not to man. "Make me to hear joy and gladness; that the bones which thou hast broken may rejoice. Hide thy face from my sins, and blot out all mine iniquities… Restore unto me the joy of thy salvation." (Psalms 51:8-9, Psalms 51:12 a) Only God, through His Son, has power to forgive sins. "The Son of Man hath power on earth to forgive sins." (Mark 2:10)

To experience full release from guilt, it is necessary to accept Jesus Christ as Saviour and Lord. Jesus bore our sins in His own body on the Cross. He is our sin-bearer. He judged our sins and took our hell on Mount Calvary, when he died, the godly for the ungodly. Therefore, "Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe stands condemned already because he has not believed in the name of God's one and only Son." (John 3:18) "He who has the Son has life; he who does not have the Son of God does not have life." (1 John 5:12)

After one becomes a believer, through the exercise of faith in Jesus as Saviour and Lord, there is need for daily confession of sins of omission (1 John 2:1-2), sins of omissions (James 4:17), and even sins of ignorance, After one has surrendered himself to Christ, there is need for daily cleansing. "If we walk In the light, as he is in the light, we have. fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from every sin." (1 John 1:7 NIV)

Some Christians strangely think that love for God is incompatible with confession of sin on a daily basis, and thus, such persons accumulate guilt because of a lack of daily confession. In the life of every believer there is need for a daily 'soul-purging' through confession. All believers need daily cleansing of mistakes and failures and human blunders, even though these things are not sins, in "the strict sense of the word (I John 3:4). Even believers who are mature in love are not assured of perfection in judgment and in conduct. Even unintentional errors or sins of ignorance should be confessed to God, and, if necessary, to man (James 5:16). Jesus taught His followers to pray, ''Forgive us our debts", which assumes a need for sincere daily confession.

"O God, I see now that there is no way to experience forgiveness of sins except through Jesus. For He is my atoning sacrifice. Through His death, I may live. Through His blood, I may experience cleansing from all my sins. Thank you! Thank you!"

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: The cost of forgiveness is great – it cost the death of Jesus! I will ever glory in the Cross of Calvary!

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1 John 1:7; 1 John 2:1-2

Experiencing Daily Cleansing And Confidence

It is possible for a Christian to sin, but if a Christian falls into an act of sin, God, because of Christ's atonement, will forgive and restore the repentant believer to fellowship. This is the teaching of 1 John 2:1. "My little children, these things write I unto you, that ye sin not. And if any man sin, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous." (1 John 2:1) Jesus, as advocate, pleads our case before the Heavenly Father. "An advocate is a helper, a supporter of someone's cause, an advocate is someone's defense." (Barclay) Jesus is the one who intercedes on man's behalf before God the Father. Jesus alone is worthy to be an advocate before the Father, because Jesus alone is inherently righteous.

Spirit-filled believers are not to have a 'sin-fixation'. Rather, they are to have a 'Christ-fixation'. Believers should not focus on sin. They should focus instead on the Saviour! For where sin abounds, grace superabounds!

But, while declaring the proper focus and emphasis, it is important for the sincere Christian to recognize his need for constant cleansing. The blood of Christ cleanses, and continues to cleanse, from the pollution of sin, as the believer continues to 'walk in the light' of truth (1 John 1:7). Even the Spirit-filled believer must maintain his sense of forgiveness and power by constant reliance upon the cleansing blood of Christ. His sense of release from a sense of perpetual guilt is found to the degree that he continues to appropriate the cleansing blood of Jesus, constantly applied to the believer's life!

He who practices 'agreeing with God's grace-estimate' of himself (1 John 1:9) (present tense in Greek for 'Confess'), is he who enjoys a sense of pardon and a sense of conscious release of guilt. When the repressed guilts in the believer's life are released into the conscious mind, it is this process of confession that must be practiced in order to continue to enjoy a sense of relief am pardon.

To 'pray without ceasing' is to practice an attitude of confession. Not centering primarily upon the sin, but focusing primarily upon the mercy and love and grace of Christ, whose blood continually cleanses as one continues to confess. Grace is always and only for the humble, rot; for the self-satisfied – and this goes for believers as well as for the unsaved.

Jesus is the believer's advocate who pleads his case before the Father, and who applies the atoning blood to his sin.

"'Confess' means 'agree along with'. O Lord, I agree along with you – that you are right and I am wrong, that you are the all-sufficient Saviour and I am the totally-needy sinner, that your blood alone can cleanse me initially from my moral pollution and can continue to cleanse me from my daily shortcomings and sins."

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: "The cleansing stream, I see, I see! I plunge, and, oh it cleanses me!"

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Romans 5:1-2; Romans 8:31-34; Hebrews 4:14-16; Hebrews 10:35

Learning To Forgive Yourself

"What is the cure for real guilt?" There is a five-fold answer to this important question: (1) Acknowledgement of transgressing life, resulting in humble confession of sin, (2) Involvement in earnest prayer, (3) Acceptance of the Son of God as Saviour, (4) Daily confession of sins and failures, and (5) Learning to forgive yourself of your forgiven sins and mistakes.

It is this last step that we must focus our attention on today. Notes William Sangster, "Having accepted the forgiveness of God, don't brood over the past. There are many people in the family of God who do not doubt God's forgiveness, but they never seem able to forgive themselves. The memory of their sin lacerates them. It is hardly ever out of their minds. So, far from being able, as some are, to forgive themselves lightly, they seem unable to forgive themselves at all. Just like some unhealed wound in the body, this unhealed wound in the spirit drains their strength, hinders their progress, pours pus into the blood-stream, and keeps them in a state of spiritual invalidism.

"God has forgiven you; forgive yourself. Who are you to have superior moral values to the Almighty God? Here are two things which will help you to forgive yourself.

"(1) Can't you see that your unwillingness to forgive yourself is a form of spiritual pride? What you are really saying, at the deep level of your mental and emotional life, is this: 'How could I ever have done that?' (Note the stress on the 'I'.) 'Me! A spiritual giant like me!' injected into your veins. Accept the forgiveness. (You cannot undo the past. God has forgiven it, and, if God has forgiven you, who can justly accuse you? That is the first thing: forgive yourself.

"(2) Here is the second. In some mysterious way – beyond our human fathoming – God can use sin… the God who is mighty in creation is also mighty in transformation." (Daily Readings; William Sangster; pg. 71)

God will not allow anything in our past lives to be wasted. He can take even the bad of one's past and use it in the development of good! I know of one man, who for many years lived deeply in sin, but soon after he because a Christian he began to champion righteous causes. He was no stranger to pornography when he was not a Christian, but soon after his conversion to Christ he spear-headed a courageous campaign against pornography within his local community. Another man, before he was a believer, involved himself in deceptive practices and ended up in prison for several months. After becoming a Christian and after he was released from prison, he began a Christ-centered prison ministry which gained national recognition and acceptance! So, whatever your past sins are, confess them to God, and allow God to use even your past sins to bring about some good! Doing this helps you to learn to forgive yourself.

"Loving God, if you have hid my sins in the 'sea of your forgetfulness', then I have no right to live remorsefully. Confessing all my sins to you, I now release from my conscious mind the regrets and shame which my sins have caused me. Henceforth, allow me to live confidently and joyfully!"

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: Because God has already judged my sins in the person of Jesus when He died on the Cross, I will never have to face an angry Judge, but only a loving Friend!

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Discussion Questions On 'Freedom From Real Guilts'

  1. What evidence is there from Scripture that everyone is guilty of wrong doing?

  2. How can chapters One and Two of Romans be described by way of contrast, as each relates to the subject of sinners?

  3. What are two major flaws in attempting to gain God's approval by a life of outward morality?

  4. Name and describe four inadequate ways of dealing with real guilt.

  5. If Jesus is 'Love Incarnate' (i.e., God in human form who best demonstrated the love of God), then how can we justify Jesus' seeming harsh and severe treatment of some of the religious leaders of His day?

  6. What can be learned, from a study of 'The Sermon on The Mount' (Matthew 5:21-42), regarding the true nature of sin?

  7. Share at least three different characteristics of the Holy Spirit's Conviction of sinners.

  8. How does Paul Tournier distinguish between 'False Guilt' and 'True Guilt'?

  9. Name and describe at least two causes of real guilt. What is the difference between 'sins of commission' and 'sins of omission'? Give Scriptures which describe these two types of sin.

  10. What is meant by the 'Laws of Morality' and the 'Law of Relationships'?

  11. Tell why you agree or disagree with the following statement: "Lovelessness is sin!"

  12. What is the 'Golden Rule' as Jesus stated it, and in what way is the 'Golden Rule' unique among the ethical principles taught in the ancient world?

  13. What does Matthew 25 teach mankind regarding the importance of good works? Based on a study of this chapter, is it accurate to say that, unless there is evidence of good works in one's life, one's profession of faith in Christ is meaningless?

  14. List and describe the five steps that are involved in a person realizing an effective cure for real guilt in his life.

  15. Contrast the Freudian view with the Christian view, regarding the origin of guilt in one's life.

  16. Why is confession directly to God through prayer the only adequate method of ridding oneself of guilt? Why is a human mediator not adequate in the confession act? (Note 1 Timothy 2:5-6)

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    Discussion Questions On 'Freedom From Real Guilts' (Continued)

  17. After one becomes a believer, through the exercise of faith in Jesus Christ, why is it necessary for such a one to daily confess his sins to Jesus Christ?

  18. According to 1 John 1:7, what condition must be met if a believer is to enjoy daily Cleansing from Christ?

  19. What is the significance to the believer of the present tense in Greek for 'Confess'? In light of 1 John 1:7, 1 John 1:9; 1 John 2:1-2, give your interpretation of the following statement: "Grace is always and only for the humble, not for the self-satisfied – and this goes for believers as well as for the unsaved."

  20. What insights could you sharp. with a sincere believer who is having a difficult time forgiving himself of his past?

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Freedom From False Guilts

Freedom From False Guilts

Chapter Two

Freedom From False Guilts
The Sweetest Word In The World! 16 'The Accuser Of The Brethren' 20
The Condemnatory Voice Of An Overly-Sensitive Conscience 17 The Basis Of Confidence 21
Learning To Practice Self-Acceptance 18 Discussion Questions 22
Living In 'Earthen Vessels' 19    

Isaiah 40:1-5

The Sweetest Word In The World!

I have a friend who, when I first met him, was at the height of his career as a research scientist. My friend, by nature a personable, generous, good-humored man, came to my office many times during a lengthy and dark period in his life. Broken-hearted and guilt-ridden, tears surfaced much of the time as he poured out his heart regularly to me. He told me that one of the biggest problems of his life was his overwhelming sense of guilt. Guilt as a result of his wife leaving him, causing multiple psychological and social problems in the lives of his children. Guilt because of his past over-involvement in his work which he felt was a contributing cause of his divorce. Guilt resulting from his ambivalent feelings associated with his hard decision to put his parents in a nursing home. Also, his former work as a scientist in biological and hereditary research involved some moral and ethical problems which were in conflict with the Christian beliefs which he was taught as a child and youth. In addition to these various guilts associated with his relationships with his wife and children and parents and job, there was the recurring guilt that surfaced to his conscious mind to plague him – the guilt caused by his wartime experiences during World War II.

Some would give almost anything to be rid of their plaguing sense of guilt! To many people, the word 'Forgiveness' would be the sweetest word in the world!

In thinking of guilt, three classes of people come to mind. First, there are those who are guilty, but who think that they are innocent. These people need conviction of sin. Second, there are those who are innocent, but who think that they are guilty. These people need comfort and reassurance. Third, there are those who are guilty and they know they are guilty. These people need forgiveness and cleansing.

Christ has the answer to those who should feel guilty and don't. He has the answer to those who should feel innocent and don't. He also has the answer for the many who feel guilty and should. Through the Holy Spirit's convicting, forgiving, and comforting ministry, the needs of all persons can be adequately met.

Because many sincere believers find it easy to be plagued with guilt feelings, for no apparent reason, we must take time to deal with False Guilts. Living the Spirit-controlled life means effectively dealing with False Guilts. We must look at both the causes and the cure, in our treatment of false guilts. There is comfort for the people of God!

"Father, help me to distinguish between real and false guilts in my life. Help me to expose myself to the cleansing blood of Christ when I am truly guilty of sin, and to the comforting presence of Christ when I am needlessly swallowed up in unfounded guilt feelings."

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: I will commit my accusing conscience to the verdict of the cleansing blood of Christ and the comforting presence of the Spirit.

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Romans 14:1-23

The Condemnatory Voice Of An Overly-Sensitive Conscience

Among the many causes of false guilts is the condemnatory voice of an overly-sensitive conscience, seeking to accuse, even though there is no Biblical or objective basis for such condemnation. Sometimes this overly- sensitive conscience is developed in one's childhood. Children can develop notions and impressions that some things are wrong or evil, even though the things which are producing guilt feelings are not wrong at all. Such false guilts need to be thrown aside and a new confidence with God and man regained. God is greater than human ideas and notions, and in God's sovereign love am mercy He will calm human doubts and deliver from false guilts.

Perhaps a few illustrations will help make this point clear. Some have said that sex feelings are sinful or that attraction to the beauty of the opposite sex is sinful. These feelings and attractions are not lust or sin but are part of our normal, healthy life – everybody has them. Lust is sin, but not sexual attraction.

Some have imposed false guilt on conscientious persons by saying that self-love is sinful. Self-love is not sinful! Self-love is assumed in Christ's commandment to love one's neighbor as one's self. To act as if you had no self-love is to act dishonestly, Self-centered love is sinful, but not self-love. Loving Christ supremely, you are to love yourself subordinately and others sincerely. But to love others sincerely, you must love yourself truly. You need not feel guilty because you love yourself!

Some have imposed false guilts on teenagers by saying that ambivalent feelings by teenagers toward parents is wrong. During adolescent development, it is normal for young people to experience ambivalent feelings towards parents at times, for these feelings are part of the unconscious struggling for adult status am independence.

Writes J. B. Phillips, "All religions, Christianity unfortunately not excepted, tend to excite in certain people an artificial sense of guilt, which may have little or no connection with a man's actual standing before God. Probably Pharisaism, which Christ attacked with bitter scorn, represents this tendency at its highest… The danger of such a system, am the reason why Christ attacked it so violently, is that its values are artificial. The proud am correct feel 'right with God' just when they are not, and the sensitive humble man feels hopeless am overburdened for the wrong reasons." (The Newborn Christian; pg 174) As C. S. Lewis says, "We may create scruples. And scruples are always a bad thing – if only because they usually distract us from real duties." (The Joyful Christian; pg 170)

"Father, awaken my conscience to discern the sinfulness of real sin and the innocency of manmade scruples. Help me to deposit in the moral wastebasket all false guilts which are robbing me of peace of mind and joy in living. I want to live abundantly!"

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: The Son has made me free, therefore I will not burden myself today with the needless baggage of false guilts!

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Romans 8:31-34

Learning To Practice Self-Acceptance

Many feel guilty because they cannot accept themselves. Some sincere believers cannot accept themselves because their overly-sensitive conscience has been wrongly trained to condemn them. The conscience, by itself, is not always a reliable guide to determine right or wrong actions or attitudes. The conscience simply stands guard over the values that one puts into his moral nature, and therefore the conscience itself cannot determine the objective rightness or wrongness of a moral value. One must refer to an objective moral standard (a standard not dependent upon cultural, social, or personal preferences) to determine the actual rightness or wrongness of moral values.

Where does one find the right moral values to feed into his moral nature, over which the conscience merely stands guard? The Holy Scriptures, carefully applied to the believers' mind by the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit applies those Scriptures to one's life through the channels of prayer and meditation and counsel. One must always evaluate his conscience to determine the source of its training – whether or not the trainer of the conscience is reliable. It is important to look to Jesus, rather than primarily to others, for a standard for Personal Convictions. (See Romans 14:5, Romans 14:22)

Some believers have a hard time accepting themselves because of a sense of personal unworthiness in light of the great personal sacrifice of Jesus on the cross. There are those believers who feel guilty because they know they are partly responsible for Jesus' death on the cross. To counter this false guilt (if it can be called that), one must recognize that he is made worthy and acceptable 'in the Beloved' and he has been made an inheritor of the riches of grace. In response to these unspeakable blessings, let him be full of gratitude and full of good works (Titus 2:14), not full of guilt and self-despising.

Some feel guilty because of their failure to live up to someone else's expectations, or because of failure to live up to their own expectations. "Much of our tension and anxiety can be traced directly to a fear of inadequacy. We should meet this fear… by learning to accept ourselves. We probably are Not adequate for all our ambitious schemes, and only at the cost of enormous nervous energy can we succeed in becoming momentarily what we really are not… Suppose we accept ourselves good-humoredly, realizing our limitations and how much we have to learn, with cheerfulness and without envy of those who are, or appear to be, more adequate than ourselves." (The Newborn Christian; pg 129; J. B. Phillips)

"Father, deliver me from the self-imposed tyranny of forcing unrealistic expectations upon myself and of pursuing overly ambitious plans which are the inventions of my own unsanctified imagination. My perfectionist standards have caused undue strain and drain in me, inflicting in me needless guilt and causing me needless envy of others whose attainments are higher than mine. Give me a faith, sane estimate of myself and of my abilities and potential."

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: The gift of God's peace can only be received when I have ridden myself of my over-mastering desire to appear bigger than I really am!

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2 Corinthians 1:8-11; 2 Corinthians 4:7-12; 1 Kings 19:1-9

Living In 'Earthen Vessels'

Because the treasure of God's salvation is contained in 'earthen vessels', the emotions of even Christians can play tricks on them. Christians are not exempt from bouts with depression caused by physical and mental weariness. Believers must remember that they were not saved by their feelings, nor do they remain saved by their feelings! We walk by faith, not by sight or by feelings! Therefore we must not gauge our spiritual lives by the tone of our feelings. We must continue to live by faith, based upon the commitment of the will, and not live by emotions which are greatly influenced by changing circumstances and by changing health.

"Many of the greatest saints have witnessed to the fact that there were times in their lives when it seemed that they had no faith at all. They tell us that Francis Asbury used to preach with great unction and power, and then go to his room and have spells of melancholy until he would feel that he was lost and there was no hope for him at all. Now this feeling came from the fact that his body was exhausted and his nerves frayed.

"I think that the same thing must have been true with Elijah when he went off under the juniper tree and had such a spell of the blues. It was the physical reaction that came after his great conflict with evil on Mt. Carmel. His spiritual condition was not changed, for God went out to him am helped him." (Earthen Vessels; pg 44,45; John Church)

How can one counter problems of guilt feelings, because of weariness? First, get rest. Such a person in this state needs not to struggle in prayer, but he needs to sleep and rebuild his body, or perhaps to re-create himself through exercise and leisure. Second, this person needs to keep living by faith, not by feelings. "If you expect to live by your feelings, you will find yourself in a constant state of doubt am uncertainty am you will always live an up-and-down life. You will find that your feelings fluctuate and go up and down like a window shade, but thank God that does not have to be true of your spiritual state and standing in Jesus. The Fact that you are in Jesus Christ is a fact that was established by a deliberate choice of your will, and that fact can only be changed in one way, and that is by a choice of your will." (Ibid; pg 45,46)

"Jesus, Thou are all compassion. Amidst my changing emotions, you remain steadfast and faithful to me. In my sadness, you are my gladness; in my loneliness, you are my companionship; in my depression, you are my hope; in my sinning, you are my forgiveness. Amidst the changes and chances of life, your resources are infinite to meet all my needs! I am profoundly thankful!"

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: My faith is fixed on the fact of God's trustworthy character – a fact that keeps my feelings intact!

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Revelations 12:7-12

'The Accuser Of The Brethren'

In Revelations 12:10, Satan is called 'the accuser of the brethren who accuses them before our God day and night.' Satan is able to disguise himself as 'an angel of light' (2 Corinthians 11:14). Satan is the accuser of the brethren, who appears at times as an angel of light – seeking to produce a condemning conscience in the Christian. This is one of the common sources of 'false guilts'. Satan enjoys accusing the believer of things of which he is not guilty!

Believers can be thankful that against this darkening, confusing, subtle force stands the powerful and merciful Spirit of God who comforts believers and who stills the accusing voice of Satan.

The Scriptures tell us how to counter this dreadful accusation of Satan: "They overcame him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony; they did not love their lives so much as to shrink from death." (Revelations 12:11)

Satan hates the blood of Christ, for it is Christ's blood which cleanses from all sin. (1 John 1:7) Satan also hates the testimony of the humble believer, for that testimony declares Christ's power – the very power that will ultimately vanquish Satan altogether!

In speaking of Satan, there are two traps to avoid. First, it is possible not to take Satan seriously at all. There are those who outrightly deny his existence, which is a great and dangerous mistake! There are others who are ignorant of his evil devices, and thus they are often entrapped in his subtle snares. Paul warned us not to be ignorant of Satan's devices (2 Corinthians 2:11). There are others who believe that if they never think of Satan or mention Satan by name that Satan will leave them alone. All of these responses are responses which show that the persons involved are not taking Satan seriously.

There is a second trap to" avoid in dealing with Satan. It is possible to be overly-preoccupied with Satan. Someone wisely said, "What gets your attention, gets you!" Don't give credit to Satan if you can help it! Don't give Satan undue attention by talking too much or too often about him. Don't focus your attention or interest on Satan; instead, focus your attention on Jesus Christ! Glance at Satan but gaze on Jesus Christ! Recognize that while Satan's power abounds, 'Jesus' power superabounds! Be knowledgeable of Satan's tactics, but be more knowledgeable of the Holy Spirit's works! Never forget that you do not work for a victory, but that you work from a victory – a victory which was won on the cross and through the empty tomb!

"Father, help me to distinguish between your voice of true conviction of real sin in my life, from Satan's disguised voice of false accusations. Help me to arm myself with the Word of God and learn to resist the devil, as I remain steadfast in the faith. Victory is mine, through the Lord Jesus Christ! Thank you. Thank you!"

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: Satan's head has been crushed! Satan's death sentence has been pronounced and his execution date has been set! He is a defeated foe!

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1 John 3:18-24

The Basis Of Confidence

Listen to the apostle John's wise advice: "My children, let us love not merely in theory or in words – let us love in sincerity and in practice! This is how we shall know that we are children of the truth and can reassure ourselves in the sight of God, even if our own conscience makes us feel guilty. For God is greater than our conscience, and he knows everything. " (1 John 3:18-20 Phillips)

Notes John Stott, "The suggestion seems to be (from verse 20) that it may not be either an unusually or an infrequent experience for the Christian's serene assurance to be disturbed. Sometimes the accusations of our 'conscience' will be true accusations, and sometimes they will be false… In either case, the inner voice is not to overcome us." (Tyndale Bible Commentary; The Epistles of John; pg 145)

Stott continues, "Our conscience is by no means infallible; its condemnation may often be unjust. We can, therefore, appeal from our conscience to God who is greater am more knowledgeable. Indeed, He knows all things, including our secret motives am deepest resolves, and, it is implied, will be more merciful towards us than our own heart. His omniscience should relieve, not terrify, us. So it is knowledge which alone can quieten the condemning heart, our own knowledge of our sincere love for others and supremely God's knowledge of our thoughts am motives. Stronger than any chemical tranquillizer is trust in our all-knowing God." (Ibid; pg 146)

The one who experiences the divinely-imparted love can be assured that he is of the Truth, am therefore he can have a tranquil heart. "It is the mind's knowledge by which the heart's doubts may be silenced… Love is the final objective test of our Christian profession, for true love; in the sense of self-sacrifice, is not natural to man in his fallen state. Its existence in any man is evidence of new birth and of the indwelling Spirit, and it shows itself' in deed'. 'There are actual things we can point to – not things we have professed or felt or imagined or intended, but things that we have done.' (Law) If we thus love 'in truth' (v. 18), we may indeed have full assurance in our hearts. 'The fruit of love is confidence.' (Wescott)." (Ibid; pg 145,146)

Suppose the condemnation which you feel is because of real sin in your life, and is not the result of false guilt? Then recognize that the Sovereign mercy am love of God is still 'greater than your heart' (1 John 3:20). God knows your heart and can judge rightly. Whatever the source of condemnation – be it false guilt or real guilt – God is greater than the condemnation and can restore the believer to true confidence!

"Father, restore unto me the joy of my salvation. You are the source of my joy, for you are the solution to the problem of my guilty feelings which have stolen away my joy. You came to earth, rot, to condemn, but to save – to save me from the real guilt of my sins and from the false guilts resulting from my inadequacies. Thank you for your total provision!

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: He who is greater than my heart will stand guard over my heart, delivering me from all guilt – both real and false!

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Discussion Questions On 'Freedom From False Guilts'

  1. In thinking of the subject of 'guilt', three classes of people come to mind. Name those three classes, and briefly tell what the basic need of each of those three is.

  2. Are you sometimes plagued with 'guilt feelings' for no apparent reasons? How do you cope with such feelings?

  3. Do you believe that it pleases God for believers to feel guilty? Why? or Why not?

  4. Name and describe some of the false guilts which believers have had imposed upon them, and share how you would help such believers to identify and to cope with such false guilts.

  5. What are scruples and why are scruples always a bad thing.

  6. Why is the conscience not always a reliable guide to determine right or wrong actions or attitudes?

  7. Where can one find the right moral values' to feed into his moral nature, by which he may determine what is really right and wrong?

  8. How can one effectively deal with his sense of inadequacy, the feeling of which brings guilty feelings?

  9. What is the relationship between 'Feelings, Faith, Fact' in living the Christian life and in dealing with guilt feelings?

  10. How can one distinguish between feelings which are the result of false guilts and real guilts, especially in light of the fact that Satan is 'the accuser of the brethren' (Revelations 12:10) and is able to incite feelings of guilt?

  11. When one's conscience condemns him, what should he do in order to see his confidence restored (according to 1 John 3:18-24)?

  12. If, as a believer, one recognizes that he has actually and really sinned, thus incurring guilt, what should he do, according to 1 John 1:9-10 – 1 John 2:1-2?

  13. Share a personal experience in which you found wonderful victory over either a false guilt of a real guilt.

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Freedom From Terrorizing Fears

Freedom From Terrorizing Fears

Chapter Three

Freedom From Terrorizing Fears
Conquering Fear Through Faith 23 Facing The Fear Of Failure 28
Faith Releases – Fear Ties Up! 24 Facing The Unknown Future 29
The Paralyzing Power Of Fear 25 Conquering The Fear Of Death 30
"Never Take Counsel Of Your Fears" 26 Assurance In The Face Of Death 31
Using Faith To Cancel Out Fears 27 Discussion Questions 32

Psalms 34:1-22

Conquering Fear Through Faith

Fears of all kinds plague millions of individuals. In Psalms 34 there are two kinds of fears mentioned. One is a fear that is harmful, for the Psalmist rejoices that God has delivered him from it. There are many varieties of harmful fears, all of which the Psalms declare, "I sought the Lord, and he heard me, and delivered me from all my fears." (Psalms 34:4) Later in this same Psalm, the Psalmist speaks of a fear that is wholesome and helpful – the fear of the Lord (Psalms 34:7, Psalms 34:9, Psalms 34:11). The fear of the Lord is a reverential fear – a respect and honor of Divinity.

Fear, like love, is a basic emotion of man which can be either helpful or harmful, depending upon what the object of fear is. There are fears which are helpful to man. "Fear in the form of caution has been one of man's stoutest allies in the long development of our race… Fear, moreover, is a guardian of morality… Fear has moved man to some of the greatest discoveries he ever made. Fear of the dark led him to make the candle, the oil lamp, am the electric light. Fear of pain pressed him on to the discovery of anesthetics. Fear of disease drove him to discover or devise the healing drugs." (The Secret of Radiant Life; Sangster; pg. 81) There are also many harmful fears, such as the fear of the future, the fear of failure, or the fear of death.

It is that fear which is harmful and destructive that we want to consider for the next several days. The Psalmist makes it clear in the Psalm which you read today that the way to overcome destructive fear is to trust in the Lord. We must conquer fear through faith (See Psalms 34:5, Psalms 34:8, Psalms 34:10, Psalms 34:15, Psalms 34:22).

Faith releases, but fear ties up. Faith in God releases one, but terrifying fear of God ties on up. Faith in the character and nature of God releases one from despair and convinces one that life is inherently good. He who believes that God is who the Bible says He is – a God of infinite love, wisdom, and power – is the person who sees Reality as ordained for good purposes and not for bad purposes. Thus, his whole outlook on life is positive and happy. On the other hand, he who sees God as one to be avoided and feared is the one who has a most dismal and terrifying outlook on life. Luther was only released from his terrifying fear of God and the consequent terror of life that it produced, when he came to his experience of justification by faith. Faith in God liberated him from his false conception of God and of life in general. Reverential fear is always appropriate when we approach God (Matthew 10:28, 1 Peter 1:17, Proverbs 9:10), but terrorizing fear of God only shows that our love for God is not yet perfected (1 John 4:18).

"God, to the extent that I put my faith in you, to that same extent am I delivered from my terrorizing fears. I ask two requests today: that I might be filled with reverential respect for you and that I might be emptied of terrorizing fear of you. Release me from my dismal fear and capture me with your bright love. In Jesus' name, Amen."

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: God is love – He wants what is best for me! God is wisdom – He knows that is best for me! God is power – He can give what is best for me!

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Psalms 27:1-3

Faith Releases – Fear Ties Up!

We said yesterday that faith releases, but fear ties up. This is a principle that applies to all relationships in life – whether that relationship is with God, or with nature, or with other people, or with one's self. One who believes that God is a God of perfect love, wisdom, and power, is one who has been released from the bondage of fear.

Think of this principle as it relates to one's relationship with Nature. Faith in Nature releases one to new discoveries while terrifying fear of Nature limits one in his experiences of new discoveries. All of man's discoveries in nature have depended upon man's faith in the predictability and consistency of Nature's Laws. Even before the planet Uranus was actually discovered, it's position in the sky was predicted on the basis of man's faith in the Law of Gravitation. On the other hand, terrifying fear of nature kept man for centuries from discovering Nature's secrets am using them for his advantage.

This principle applies to one's relationship with other people. Faith in people releases one, but fear of people ties one up. Fear of people causes suspicion, hate, betrayal, and war, but faith in people builds strong and enduring relationships. The foundation of peace is faith in people, while the foundation of war is suspicion and fear.

Faith in self releases oneself, but fear of self ties one up. The poised, positive and contributive person is the person who has faith in himself. The insecure, inferior, defeated person is the person who has lost faith in himself and has come to fear himself. Faith in oneself releases one to realize his fullest potential, but fear of self thwarts one's abilities and stunts one's growth. Many who have an inability to be alone, am yet an insecurity among people, are plagued with fear – the fear of self. Such are often defeated in the face of problems because the center of their personality – Self – is not intact. It was to such individuals that Christ so graciously ministered, inspiring confidence am imparting self-respect.

Further, faith is natural while fear is unnatural. "Fear is not my native land; faith is. I am so made that worry and anxiety are sand in the machinery of life; faith is oil. I live better by faith and confidence than by fear and doubt and anxiety. In anxiety and worry my being is gasping for breath – these are not my native air. But in faith and confidence I breathe freely – these are my native air… The need of faith is not something imposed on us dogmatically, but it is written in us intrinsically. We cannot live without it. To live by worry is to live against Reality." (Abundant Living; E.S. Jones; pg. 85)

"Father, I am inwardly constructed to live by faith, not by fear. Fear paralyzes me, while faith relaxes me. I can breathe more deeply, see more clearly, feel more intensely, when living by faith. Every nerve, tissue, and brain cell in me is made for faith, not for fear. Help me to walk by faith, not by fear. In Jesus' name."

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: I must live by faith if I expect to live a long and abundant life!

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Hebrews 11:23-34

The Paralyzing Power Of Fear

Faith is contributive but fear is destructive in problem-solving. To have problems is not a sign of weakness. Norman Vincent Peale says somewhere, "Problems constitute a sign of life. I would go so far as to say that the more problems you have, the more alive you are." What is a sign of weakness is encountering problems with fear instead of with faith. To look at a problem with faith is to attack the problem and find and carry out a workable solution.

Fear in the face of a problem not only blocks one in finding a solution to the problem, but fear can actually complicate the problem. Fear over an imaginary problem can create a real problem. "A school teacher was suffering from heart trouble, her heart beating so loud and rapidly that at the least effort it 'seemed to jump out of her body.' The doctors could find no physical reason for her heart condition, but they discovered that she was worried over a lump in her breast; she was sure cancer was developing there. When she was assured that there was no lump and no cancer, she went home happy and relieved. The heart became normal, and she is happy and efficient in her work. The fear and worry had caused functional disturbance. The disturbance was real, but it had been caused by an unreal fear." (Abundant Living; pg. 86; E.S. Jones)

"An Eastern legend says that a pilgrim met the Plague and asked, 'Where are you going?' The Plague replied: 'I am going to Baghdad to kill five thousand people,' A few days later the pilgrim met the Plague again and charged him with killing fifty thousand instead of five thousand. 'Oh no!' said the Plague, 'I killed only five thousand; the others died of fear." (The Secret of Radiant Life; Sangster; pg. 82)

Said William James, the famous psychologist, "Our belief at the beginning of a doubtful undertaking is the one thing that assures the successful outcome of any venture." Jesus said, "All things are possible." The Christian must eliminate the word 'impossible' from his vocabulary. "Anxiety is like a magnet. It draws unhappy results to itself. But so also is faith. Indeed faith is a much more powerful magnet, one which draws to itself the most incredible blessings." (Norman Vincent Peale) Like a magnet, faith attracts people because faith in a man creates a winsome personality, while fear repels people because fear produces a withdrawn and self-centered personality. Faith solidifies relationships and makes one other-centered. On the other hand, fear and suspicion of others destroys relationships and results in a self-centered life. The person who lives only for himself will have no one to applaud him but himself!

"Father, heal me of the paralysis of fear, and help me to rise and walk straight into the face of life's challenges and problems, not with a screwed-up courage of my own but with a Spirit-wrought trust. I am calm in the calmness of Christ!"

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: There is no problem too big but what Christ's power is bigger yet! I intend to tap that power today!

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Joshua 1:1-9

"Never Take Counsel Of Your Fears"

It takes real intelligence and effort to live by faith and courage. It is not hard to succumb to one's problems and to yield to one's fears. Norman Vincent Peale tells the story of General Stonewall Jackson. "One night during the Civil War Jackson was in conference with his generals. He was planning a daring sortie in the Shenandoah Valley. It was a brilliant plan, strategically. The odds were high, but the possibility of success existed. Only a genius could have conceived it and carried it through. At the conclusion of the meeting one of Jackson's generals said timorously, 'But, General Jackson, I'm afraid of this. I fear we can't quite carry it off.' Jackson, so the story goes, arose, put his hand on his subordinate's shoulder, and said, 'Never take counsel of your fears, General. Never take counsel of your fears.' Jackson was a man who took counsel not of fear, but of faith, and faith canceled out fear." (Overcoming Anxiety and Fear; pg. 16)

It is easy to take counsel of one's fears, and hard at times to take the road of faith. Practically speaking, how can we use faith to cancel out our fears? We must try to answer this question, both today and tomorrow.

First, face fear and determine to overcome it. "An old cowboy said he had learned life's most important lesson from Hereford cows. All his life he had worked cattle ranches where winter storms took a heavy toll among the herds. Freezing rains whipped across the prairies. Howling, bitter winds piled snow into enormous drifts. Temperatures might drop quickly to below-zero degrees. Flying ice cut into the flesh. In this maelstrom of nature's violence most cattle would turn their backs to the icy blasts and slowly drift downwind, mile upon mile. Finally, intercepted by a boundary fence, they would pile up against the barrier and die by the scores. But the Herefords acted differently. Cattle of this breed would instinctively head into the windward end of the range. There they would stand shoulder- to-shoulder facing the storm's blast, heads down against its onslaughts. 'You most always found the Herefords alive and well', said the cowboy. 'I guess that is the greatest lesson I ever learned on the prairies – just face life's storms.'" (Overcoming Anxiety and Fear; pg. 7) Theodore Roosevelt one time wisely said, "I have often been afraid, but I wouldn't give in to it. I made myself act as though I was not afraid, am gradually my fear disappeared." Joshua was doubtless afraid when the leadership over the Israelites was placed in his hands, following Moses' death, but God spoke to Joshua and alleviated his fears: "Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go." (Joshua 1:9 NIV)

"Father, what have I to fear when I know that you are right beside me, protecting me, correcting me, and guiding me through both life's troubles and life's triumphs! Like Joshua, with added responsibilities, give me added courage to obey and, strength to follow you."

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: I will listen today to the calm voice of faith, not to the clammering voice of fear!

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Philippians 4:4-9

Using Faith To Cancel Out Fears

How can we use faith to cancel out our fears? We said yesterday that we must first face fear and determine to overcome it. Secondly, after facing fears, we must find out why we have these fears. This involves serious, objective thinking. Use the reasoning quality of the mind to attack the illusive emotion of fear. If necessary, list the fears individually and pray about each one individually. In seeking to understand the cause of certain fears, it may be necessary to seek the counsel of a wise friend or minister. Self-knowledge can lead to a cure. Try to identify those fears, for instance, which originate in your early childhood, fears that have long been suppressed in the subconscious mind.

Third, we must constantly affirm our faith in Jesus' power to overcome our fears. Relax, let go of your fears, and let God constantly fill you with His power and poise. God conquered all fears on the cross and through the Resurrection, and He is able to impart the benefits of that victory to you. You must be relaxed and receptive. "Do not go skulking through life, being timorous and afraid. Say to yourself, and mean it: 'In the name of God and by the power of Jesus Christ I hereby stand up to my fears with faith. I am no longer afraid.' If you do not weaken, your fears one by one will finally slink away. But you must be vigilant. If you let down your faith, your fears will try to return. You have given hospitality to them for so long that they feel at home in your mind. Sadly, you may even miss them. But deliberately become obstinate, gloriously obstinate. Tell yourself that with God's help you will not let them come back. Keep filling your mind so full of faith that there will no longer be any room for fears." (Faith Builders: Peale; pg. 20,21)

Fourth, practice faith every day in order to defeat your fears. Make faith affirmations during difficult circumstances, such as "I can do all things through Christ who strengthen me." (Philippians 4:13) Remember that He is able "to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worked in us." (Ephesians 3:20) Exercise yourself daily in faith meditations. One man who was haunted for a long time with fears and insecurities, read through the Bible underlining in red pencil every statement relative to courage and confidence. Engage daily in faith prayers. Stretch your faith a little every day by asking God for a few things that seem impossible. Associate with people of faith. Involve yourself in faith actions and projects. This will enlarge your faith and drive away fears faster than almost anything else, for faith in action is God in action. To see God work miracles through your life, action will make your faith grow by leaps and bounds!

"Give me both knowledge of the source of my fears and determination to overcome my fears. Help me to affirm constant faith in Jesus' power to overcome my every fear. Help me to practice faith affirmations, faith meditations, faith prayers, faith associations, and faith projects. Then I shall become a man of faith!"

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: When fear comes knocking on my heart's door, I will send Jesus to the door!

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Psalms 37:1-7

Facing The Fear Of Failure

Terrifying fear in the face of a problem or a responsibility can contribute to failure. "More people than might be supposed are deeply troubled by the fear of failure. It is a dangerous fear to have working against you, for it can cause the personality to freeze and therefore induce the very failure you fear." (Overcoming Anxiety and Fear; Peale; pg. 25)

Faith contributes to success. Jesus said, "All things are possible to him that believeth." The man of faith must eliminate the word "impossible" from his vocabulary. Let what William James said be implanted in our minds: "Our belief at the beginning of a doubtful I undertaking is the one thing that assures the successful outcome of any venture."

Failure is almost certain in one form or another to come to all persons, but, depending upon how we react to failure, failure can be a means of exercising faith or of becoming more fearful. Many there have been who, after experiencing failure, were simply spurred on to increased effort which led eventually to a greater success than what they would have had if they never had experienced defeat. I recall one friend's attempts to have his writings published with so many failures that he had made a scrapbook of 'reject slips' from publishing companies. He persisted, year after year, and finally was successful in having nearly ten of his books published! It is said that 'Babe Ruth' struck out more times than he hit home runs!

How should we react to our fears of failure? Work and keep working, in spite of the fear of failure. Consistent involvement will not only reduce the fear of failure, but such involvement will bring the possibilities of success closer to reality! Says Norman Vincent Peale, "Honestly admit your fear and then act as though you were unafraid – and with the help of God go on and do your job with total neglect of fear. You will make the grade with the Lord's kindly help."

Failure and success must 'not be the main consideration in confronting a task, but rather faithfulness in carrying out God's commands. There have been great missionaries who have labored for many years with very little apparent or visible success. Says John Wesley: "On every occasion of uneasiness we should retire to prayer, that we may give place to the grace and light of God, and then form our resolutions without being in pain about what success they may have." (Wesley's Plain Account of Christian Perfection; pg. 130) "Therefore, my dear brothers, stand firm. Let nothing move you. Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you know that your labor in the Lord is not in vain." (1 Corinthians 15:58 NIV)

"Father, deliver me from the fear of failure. When my terrestrial look is dark and forbidding, let me be assured that your celestial look is always bright and inviting. Your causes cannot fail, so when my cause is identified with your cause, I too cannot fail!"

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: Love never fails, regardless of the tangible results of my loving!

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Matthew 6:25-34

Facing The Unknown Future

The unknown creates fears in many, and yet the fact of not knowing the future can add zest and anticipation to life. Who would want to know every detail of the future? It is an act of God's mercy to veil the future. If we knew the details of the future, we might become both complacent regarding effort and terrified regarding problems.

When Jesus said, "Take no thought for tomorrow" He did not forbid legitimate planning for the future. What He did forbid was hurtful worry in regards to the morrow.

What should be the relationship between the present and the future? First, the Christian must exercise faith in a God who is all-wise (He knows what is best), all-loving (He wants to give what is best), and all-powerful (He is able to give what is best).

Secondly, the Christian must claim the promise that Paul gave to young timorous Timothy: "For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind." (2 Timothy 1:7) God gives the Christian power to cope with any circumstance of life. God gives the Christian love – love that is centered on others and love that is centered on God. The more that one becomes preoccupied with others, the less one becomes preoccupied with self. The less one becomes preoccupied with self, the less one is fearful of the future. God also gives the Christian wisdom in dealing with circumstances that will arise – be those circumstances favorable or unfavorable. God will open your mouth and put the words in your mouth to meet the challenging situations of life.

Thirdly, act with confidence, living life to the fullest today, planning reasonably for tomorrow, but not worrying about tomorrow. The God who took care of you in the past is the same God who is able to take care of your in the future. Take one day at a time. Don't borrow trouble from tomorrow. Divide and conquer. "Don't worry at all then about tomorrow. Tomorrow can take care of itself! One day's trouble is enough for one day." (Matthew 6:34 Phillips)

Fourth, close each day thanking God for that day and open each new day with a prayer for guidance. "In everything give thanks, for this is the will of God." Let that be your motto for life. Praise and confidence drives away fears!

Fifth, remember that love casts out all fear (I John 4:18) "Love delivers from self-attention, gives you other-attention; and therefore love, not faith, is the method of getting rid of fear. For love produces faith as a by-product of that love. You are not afraid of people you love." (Christian Maturity; E.S. Jones; pg. 230)

"Father, help me to live one day at a time, reflecting on the past to learn and planning for the future to prosper, but never becoming guilt-ridden because of the past or terror-stricken because of the future. Let me feel your comforting hand on my shoulder and see your guiding finger charting my future course in life. Calm my fears and help me to rest secure in your love."

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: He who holds the unknown future in His mighty hands is He woo holds my hand today!

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John 14:1-4

Conquering The Fear Of Death

Norman Vincent Peale, in his book 'Overcoming Anxiety and Fear', relates a most interesting story of a woman who faced what she thought was impending death with trust and calmness!

"Eleven minutes after take-off our beautiful high shiny jet went into a nose dive. We were 249,000 pounds hurtling through space. We went into the dive at 19,000 feet and forty seconds later the Captain pulled us out of it a 5,000 feet – just eight seconds before we would have crashed! As we pulled out of the dive the No.3 engine tore out of the wing and fell to earth. No. 4 was hanging on by a few bolts. We lost most of our hydraulic fluid and a lot of electrical power. Several other mechanical failures developed. But our Captain landed that powerful plane at an emergency field as gently as one would handle a newborn baby. If eggs had lined the runway they would hardly have been damaged. It was truly the greatest miracle I shall ever experience. When we started to encounter turbulence I ran to my jump seat in the tail of the plane but was thrown off balance. I grabbed onto a shelf as we nosed over. At first I just couldn't believe it was happening. I knew our pilots were superbly skilled. I felt certain they would pull us out of it. But it was an unmistakable fact: we were smoothly and quietly plunging through space. I became very close to God when I accepted this. I felt no fear. I thought of a beloved aunt who every night says a little prayer for me. I thought how happy I was to have been even a small part of my church. I thought how strongly I had endorsed the power of positive thinking and the Golden Rule. At no time did I experience fear. I was so happy about my life including religion. I did tell God there were so many things I wanted to do yet. I wanted to stay just a little while longer. I said; 'Lord, I never got my happy marriage and my happy family.' But we were still hurtling downward and I reluctantly terminated my conversation with God. I accepted the fact that we would be blown to bits upon impact. I added a little P.S. to God: 'If this is the way You want it, – Lord, I guess this is the way it's going to be.'" Then suddenly the plane righted! Jackie could hardly believe her senses. "But it was real. We were flying merrily along on a level!" Later this woman told Dr. Peale, "I found in this terrible experience that by positive thinking and right living from day to day you can develop an inner condition that will sustain you through life's worst ordeals and roughest moments." (pg. 14-16)

Wrote John Bunyan, "Let dissolution come when it will, it can do the Christian no harm, for it be but a passage out of a prison into a palace.'

"Father, help me daily to build up my faith in you, so that when the winds blow and the storms threaten, I will have a strong backlog of faith to draw upon. When physical death finally overtakes me, let me see the gates of heaven open wide for my entrance! In Jesus' conquering name! Amen."

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: Placing my faith in the Deathless One, I shall never die! (John 11:26)

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1 Corinthians 2:9-10; Revelations 21:1-4

Assurance In The Face Of Death

Allow me to share a very intimate experience with you. On August 14, 1981, my brother's 15-year-old daughter tragically died as a result of an accident. Needless to say, my brother was deeply grief-stricken as a result of this unspeakably great loss. Two weeks later, on August 29, 1981, my brother had an unusual vision of his daughter, Sharla. The following account, written by my brother, describes that unusual vision.

"I have never in my life had an experience like this one. I have never experienced such intensity… First, I heard Sharla's voice. Her voice was clear, but seemed to be corning from far away. She was saying in her beautiful, distinct voice, 'Hello, dad. Hello, daddy. It's me — Sharla.' Then, I saw Sharla. Sharla was absolutely beautiful and striking. She was healthy, am so totally alive. And most striking of all was something I can only describe as an 'essence' — a halo of luminous light — a 'glow' — surrounding her entire body. She seemed to be 'floating' — so gracefully, without any rush; just totally there, yet so distinctly different am beautiful…

"Sharla said, 'Hi, dad. I can only stay for awhile; then I have to leave again. I have come back to say how very much I love you. I want to lie between you and Marsha' (her younger sister). Sharla then kissed, hugged, caressed, and expressed her love to Marsha and to me. She said, 'Daddy, don't be sad; I love you, daddy. I must go now. I love you daddy…' And then Sharla, in all her perfect beauty 'floated' off to Heaven.

"At that point I awoke screaming and screaming… 'Sharla! Oh, Sharla! I love you, Sharla. Oh, Sharla! I love you. Sharla, I want to go with you! Sharla! Sharla!!! And then she was gone…

"I was screaming out load — over and over again — for Sharla. I was totally shaken! I don't understand what happened; it seemed so totally real. Whatever it was, I am totally grateful to God. I shall never forget how alive, how totally healthy and beautiful Sharla was. How gracefully happy she was with eternity — yet how thoughtful and kind and beautiful she was to express her love and affection to Marsha and to me.

"We serve a perfect am loving God. How I love you, Jesus. Thank you for the assurance that I will see Sharla in all her glory again some day in eternity. Thank you, Sharla. I love you — and I am homesick for Heaven."

"And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, 'Now the dwelling of God is with men, and he will live with them… He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.'" (Revelations 21:3-4)

"Father, I thank you for your gift of unspeakable joy which I can experience even amidst life's overwhelming tragedies. You are the God of all comfort who comforts me in all my sorrows. Thank you for destroying all my enemies, even my greatest enemy of all – death. My faith is in a deathless Saviour!"

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: I live by faith in the Son of God who loved me and who gave Himself for me – in order that I may never taste eternal death!

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Discussion Questions On 'Freedom From Terrorizing Fears'

  1. Is fear, in and of itself, a right or wrong emotion? Why or why not?

  2. How can one distinguish between a helpful and a harmful fear? Name examples of both.

  3. According to Psalms 34 (Psalms 34:1-22), what is the basic way to conquer fears?

  4. What is the difference between a reverential fear of God and a terrorizing fear of God?

  5. In terms of one's relationship with God, with nature, with other people, and with one's own self, show how the principle 'Faith releases, but fear ties up' works out.

  6. Illustrate what is meant by the principle! "Faith is Natural but Fear is Unnatural".

  7. Illustrate how Fear blocks one in finding a solution to one of life' s many difficult problems.

  8. Do you agree or disagree with William James' statement: "Our belief at the beginning of a doubtful undertaking is the one thing that assures the successful outcome of any venture." Why or why not? Can you illustrate this principle from an experience in your own life?

  9. Share an experience from your life when you found it easy to take counsel of your fears and .hard to take the road of faith.

  10. Share an experience in your life when you found victory over a difficult problem in your life because you exercised faith in God.

  11. Practically speaking, how can you use faith to cancel out your fears.

  12. How have you learned to cope with the 'fear of failure'?

  13. Do you agree or disagree with the following statement by John Wesley: "On every occasion of uneasiness we should retire to prayer, that we may give place to the grace and light of God, and then form our resolutions without being in pain about what success they may have."

  14. What are the most effective ways in dealing with the 'fear of the future'?

  15. What Scriptural help have you found in overcoming the 'fear of death'?

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Freedom From Inferiority Complexes

Freedom From Inferiority Complexes

Chapter Four

Freedom From Inferiority Complexes
The Enemy Of Inferiority 33 Self-Worth Based On Divine Evaluation 37
Accepting Your Personal Uniqueness 34 Learning To Deal With Insecurity 38
Aim At a God-Given Goal 35 Discussion Questions 39
Self-Worth Based On Human Evaluation 36    

Psalms 139:13-16; Matthew 10:29-31

The Enemy Of Inferiority

Face inferiorities for what they are – enemies! Inferiority feelings are enemies that hinder in creativity. We are made by God to be creative and anything that hinders in that creative process is an enemy. Some foolishly mistake inferiority with humility. A grave mistake, for inferiority is an enemy of creativity while humility is the source of creativity.

What is humility? Humility is a sane estimate of yourself in the light of God and in the light of other people. Looking at self in the light of God should lead to neither boasting or to despair, but instead to gratitude. "Your dignity arises solely from your relationship to God. How can the child of a King feel inferior? How can a blood-bought sinner be proud?" (The Secret of Radiant Life; Sangster; pg. 80)

Looking at yourself in the light of others should lead neither to inferiority or to boasting, but to humble cooperation The humble person has a sane estimate of himself and a sane estimate of others. He never considers himself worthless and seldom considers others as geniuses. Rather, he sincerely appreciates others for their person and for their abilities, and truly accepts himself as having real worth. He knows that his abilities and the abilities of others are all God-given. There is no room either for boasting or for despair, but only for joyous cooperation with God and with others as you work together creatively to carry out God's purposes.

Never admit, even to yourself, that you are inferior. For one to say that he is inferior is to tell a lie! God taught Peter – and He would teach us today – to call no man common or unclean (Acts 10). "When Muretus, the poor scholar, was overtaken by sudden sickness centuries ago in the Low Countries, he was picked up out of the gutter and carried into a hospital. It never crossed the mind of the two young surgeons standing by the table on which he had been laid that this mud-stained, ill-clad boor could understand a word of their conversation, for they were talking in Latin. The theme of their discussion was a certain dangerous operation which was just being mooted in Europe, am with a sudden inspiration, one of the surgeons nodded toward Muretus and said to his colleague: 'Shall we try the experiment on this worthless creature?' But Muretus had understood every word. Who better? Nor did he say, 'I am a scholar and a gentleman. You can't do that to me!' In polished Latin he said to those startled youths: 'Will you call that man worthless for whom Christ dies?' That is the ground of our worth: the solid, sufficient, and only basis of it. And it is the same for everyone. We were dear enough to have shed the sacred blood." (The Secret of Radiant Life; Sangster; pg. 77)

"Father, help me to see that to call myself inferior is not merely a weakness that causes great damage to myself, but that it is a sin against my Creator. To devalue myself is to devalue the highest product of your creation and the purchase of Christ's redemption Help me to accept and to love myself."

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: I am of infinite worth to God. He does not love me 'for something', but for myself alone!

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Jeremiah 1:4-10

Accepting Your Personal Uniqueness

Some who are told not to be inferior swing from one extreme to another – from inferior feelings to egotistical feelings. If man is not to feel inferior, neither is he to feel superior. Some people are possessed with illusions of grandeur – living in a fantasy world in which they are the center of power and influence! "A father said to his daughter who had been slipping in her achievements: 'You are not the least bit inferior.' To which the girl replied: 'No, the fact is, I'm superior in many things.'" (Abundant Living; E.8. Jones; pg. 105) This girl had failed to find a sane estimate of her abilities. A disciplined goal is the product of a sane estimate of yourself, a mark of true humility. We are neither a worm or a wonder, only an ordinary person becoming an extraordinary servant of Christ because of the grace of God.

Idolizing others of greater ability, some people are not only experience regular rounds of defeat and failure, but are also failing to reach their own potential. "A minister felt that he should do the work of Moody. He prayed hard and worked hard, but no spectacular Moody results came. And then he came to the conclusion that when God got hold of Moody He got bold of a bigger man, and that God expected him to do his own work, not Moody's." (Ibid; pg. 105)

God has made each of us differently and to do different work for Him. Have you yet learned to accept your own personal uniqueness? Your personal individuality is to be seen for its true purpose – to complement the whole work of God. "Everything God has made has its own personal identity. There are billions of leaves but no two have ever been alike. No two raindrops ever have been identical. And no other person has ever been made or ever will be made exactly like you. The print of your finger is different; you think differently, and you look different from any other person that ever lived. One day a sixth-grade teacher asked her class, 'What is here in the world today that was not here fifteen years ago?' She expected the class to tell her of some of the new inventions and discoveries. One little boy held up his hand. 'All right, Johnny,' she said, 'what is here that was not here fifteen years ago? He said, 'Me.'" (Roads to Radiant Living; Charles Allen; pg. 84)

Comparing yourself with others can lead to one of these reactions: feelings of inferiority, feelings of superiority, feelings of jealousy. Seeing yourself properly in light of Gal and of others results in humility before God and in appreciation for others. Remember, even before you were born, God set you apart for a special purpose (Jeremiah 1:5)

"O God, deliver me from my tendency to compare myself with others, which inevitably causes competitive feelings of strife. Help me to compare myself with myself and with your divinely-revealed potential for me. Then I shall have the joy of becoming Christlike in my upward striving rather than the grief of becoming carnal in my outward striving. In Jesus' name. Amen.'"

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: Because I am the product; of a unique creation, I can accept my personal uniqueness without either inferiority or superiority.

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Matthew 10:37-39; Matthew 19:27-30

Aim At a God-Given Goal

It is essential to have a disciplined goal – a product of a sane estimate of yourself. However, a disciplined goal must be formed in the light of God's possibilities for you. Advises Norman Vincent Peale: "Realistically estimate your ability; then raise the estimate ten percent." This is one way of saying that a sane estimate of one's abilities must also be a faith estimate. God is able to make of a person what he is unable to make of himself. Look at yourself, not as other people look 'at you or as you look at yourself presently, but try to see yourself as what God can make of you. God has a vision of what he wants you to become, and it is on the basis of that vision – as it is progressively made known to you – that you should be setting and resetting your goals.

In setting your own personal goals, always keep God's goals and purposes in mind. The purpose of God in history is the redemption and salvation of all mankind. Get your gaze on God and not primarily on yourself, and your self will automatically be developed. One who loses himself in God and in others not only finds God and others, but he automatically finds himself! But he who majors on finding himself to the exclusion. of God and others, not only loses God and others but he ultimately loses himself. Lose yourself in order to find yourself – a divine law of the universe!

It is a law of life that you become like the people whom you constantly look at. If you constantly gaze at God with His love, glory, and holiness, you will finally become Godlike! To get your eyes off of yourself and your inferiorities, you must get your eyes on Christ and lose yourself in His' great purposes. One's involvement in God's purposes is one's strength and one's secret to self-fulfillment. Involve yourself totally in God's purposes and your inferiorities will soon be gone!

How can you build self-confidence and get rid of your inferiorities? First, face inferiority feelings for what they are – enemies that hinder in creative endeavors. Never confuse inferiority with humility. Second, never call yourself inferior for you are of infinite value to God, both because of God's unique creation of you and because of Christ's redemption of you on the cross. Third, aim at a disciplined goal – a goal formed on the basis of a sane estimate of your abilities. Fourth, aim at a God-given goal – a goal that is based on a faith estimate of your abilities which are awakened by God's power. Following these simple steps will keep you from either belittling yourself or from boasting of yourself.

"Father, give me a faith, sane estimate of my abilities and help me to use all of my abilities for the glory of Christ and for the good of men. Root out of my mind all self-despisings, and give me a wholesome self-love. If Christ is willing to keep company with me in my heart, I can enjoy keeping company with myself!"

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: Because God's power is at work within me, I will accomplish the otherwise un-accomplishable!

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Luke 10:38-42

Self-Worth Based On Human Evaluation

Luke 10:38-42 is a study on 'Self-Worth'. In Martha's case, her self- worth came from her activity, from her performance. As long as others felt good about, her achievements, she felt good about, herself. In Mary's case, she derived her self-worth from what she saw herself to be before God. Do you find your self-worth as a result of what you see yourself to be before God?

Self-worth based on human evaluation has many drawbacks. If one bases his self-worth on the praise he gets from his peers, he is looking to an unreliable and variable source for support. The praise of peers is changeable and is often based, not on the facts, but upon the whims of changeable people. The praise of peers so often is conditional – 'if you do this, then I will accept you.' There is no 'for better or for worse' commitment to the person himself, but commitment based only upon performance. Jesus himself refused to value himself and his mission on the basis of human evaluation and praise. The person who bases his self-worth on material things will be destroyed for 'the world passes away' (1 John 2:17). The Bible tells us not "to set hopes on uncertain riches but on God who richly furnishes us with everything to enjoy." (1 Timothy 6:17) Don't set your hopes and build your sense of self-esteem on friends, for friends may leave you or forsake you.

Don't build your sense of self-worth on your physical beauty, for such beauty is only 'skin deep' and it fades like the autumn leaves. There are adults still hanging on to the symbols of youth – fads and fashions in clothing – as an attempt to maintain a crumbling sense of self-worth.

Don't set your hopes and build your sense of self-worth on popularity, for the world's popularity is elusive and passing. Writes Sangster, "Fame is the will-o'-the-wisp which beckons others on… Sir Walter Scott achieved it – great, and worthy, and deserved fame – but there was that in him which not all the praise of men could satisfy. When he was dying, he said, 'Bring me the book'. 'The book?' they said. 'What book?' 'There is only ONE book', he answered a little wearily. 'Bring me the Bible.'" (Daily Readings; pg. 90)

If one bases his sense of self-worth upon the evaluation of human categories like we have described, he is left with an aching void. A deep sense of self-worth cannot be found in any of earth's possessions or relationships – however good they may be. Only God can affirm you at the deepest level of your being. There are those who are constantly seeking to be affirmed by others, but who find that even those who are nearest and dearest cannot fill the inner void in their lives. God alone can give one a lasting sense of value.

"O God, help me to hold in the eye of my reverent imagination the picture of the person you mean for me to become. Human evaluation of me is unrealistic, variable, fleeting, and incomplete. Use my sanctified imagination to pull me out of the mire of my inferiority complexes. In Jesus' powerful name. Amen."

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: To have the quiet smile of God's approval resting on my life is worth more to me than the applause of all of earth's kings!

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2 Corinthians 10:7-12

Self-Worth Based On Divine Evaluation

Seeing yourself as God sees you is realistic, for God knows everything about you. One who gains a sense of self-worth from God will have a deep inner happiness, regardless of the outward circumstances, for God's evaluation of a person is unchanging and loving. One who allows God to love him, feels constantly loved, and in turn loveable and loving.

Further, God's evaluation is constant and permanent. As Mary sat at the feet of Jesus (Luke 10:39), her self-worth was greatly enhanced, for she learned of God's love which is permanent and unchanging.

We may come boldly before the throne of grace without intimidation, for God's estimate of us will never change. He loves us with 'no strings attached.' His dealings with us are always consistent with his permanent love for us. His constant, unfailing presence and companionship is what gives life value and worth.

Deriving a sense of worth from God, takes care of several things: (1) Deep feelings of inferiority – for you are important to God and loved by God, regardless of what you are and regardless of who you are. You are seen to be so important to God that He gave His Son to die for you personally. Your soul is of more value to God than the value of the entire world's wealth. You are unique – no one else can take your place. You are so important that God knows you by name, knows the number of hairs in your head, and knows your future!

(2) Takes care of Guilt. Your worth is so great to God that God wants you to live as a forgiven, restored, healthy, and happy son of God! You are a soul for whom Christ died! Greater value than that cannot be placed on anyone! He loves you so much that He is willing to cast away your sins in the 'sea of His forgetfulness.'

(3) Takes care of relieving anxiety – because we have one with us who is totally capable and able to deal with all of life's perplexities! You are worth more to God than any other thing in the world, and God has promised to take care of you!

(4) Deals with hostility against one another. We can be relaxed toward one another because we are loved by God. There is no need for carnal competition against one another. You don't need to compete for God's attention, for the Heavenly Father is capable of giving personal attention to each of His many children. God loves you as if you were the only one to be loved in His family!

"O God, pull me out of the mire of my own self-despisings. Let me stand erect before the world, chin up and eyes focused upon you and the needs of others. Surrendering my false ego to you just now, I am willing to allow you to love me. Love me into loving others with the security of a secure ego, cleansed and made whole through the blood of Christ. Amen."

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: I will begin this day to build my sense of self- worth upon God's estimate of me!

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Psalms 89:1-18

Learning To Deal With Insecurity

How do you deal with those terrible feelings of insecurity and inferiority? Become convinced of God's unconditional personal love for you as an individual. Then surrender to God's love for you. No longer hold bitterness toward God! The root cause of insecurity is, as one man said, "rejection of self with an unconscious bitterness toward God for making me the way He did." Begin therefore to look at yourself through God's point of view. No longer hold bitterness toward God for the 'frame' of your life which God gave to you. Instead, transfer your attention to the 'picture' – your soul – which is eternal and redeemable. Your 'frame' includes your personal background, physical appearance, talents, job, money, nationality, parentage – all of which are subject to competition and comparison which can produce insecurity and inferiority feelings. The 'picture' is the inner soul of man which is made for God's fellowship and which is redeemable. Centering on the external and perishable frame will only make you subject to competition and invites insecurity. Why build one's security on the basis of the 'frame' – the perishable qualities – which can be so easily compared with the 'frame' or another, leading to jealousy and ill feelings. Get your focus on Christ and off of others! "If we are living now by the Holy Spirit's power, let us follow the Holy Spirit's leading in every part of our lives. Then we won't need to look for honors and popularity, which lead to jealousy and hard feelings." (Galatians 5:25-26 Living Bible)

He who accepts God's wisdom in producing a great variety of 'frames' will thank God for his personal limitations as well as his assets. He who accepts God's love, which seeks to be personally applied to each per son, learns to replace temporal values with eternal values, and competitiveness with compassion.

How do you maintain your love for God, in light of your persistent imperfections and limitations which you observe in the 'frame' with which He created you? Following our initial and total surrender of ourselves to the great and loving Designer, we must "recognize the fact that God is not finished creating us and that His reputation is definitely at stake in the 'finished product'. Thus, it is a great deal easier to say, 'Lord, thank you for the way you have made me thus far' and to have a new confidence and expectation for what He will do in the future… It is not enough to thank God that we are not worse than we are. This is not really accepting ourselves. We must see, as God does, value in what He has already done." (Bill Gothard, quoted at a Seminar)

"Father, deliver me from my tendency to compare myself with others, which often leads to feelings of bitterness and jealousy. Help me to accept myself good-humoredly, to love others sincerely, and to know that God is developing within me the traits of inner beauty which shall make me both winsome and attractive to others."

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: Because God's reputation is at stake in the 'final product', I can rest assured that God's dealings with me has highest priority to God!

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Discussion Questions On 'Freedom From Inferiority Complexes'

  1. How can one distinguish between feelings of inferiority and a feeling of humility, especially in light of Philippians 2:3 and Romans 12:10?

  2. What is the basis of true humility?

  3. What is the result of true humility, in terms of one's attitudes towards himself and towards others?

  4. Is it a sin to call oneself inferior? Why? or Why Not?

  5. Why is idolizing others or comparing oneself with others devastating to one who is seeking to develop a wholesome self-esteem?

  6. What does it mean to have a 'faith, sane estimate' of one's abilities?

  7. In setting your own personal goals, what should you always keep in mind?

  8. Do you agree or disagree with the following statement: "To get your eyes off of yourself and your inferiorities, you must get your eyes on Christ and lose yourself in His great purposes." (Why? Why Not?)

  9. Suggest definite ways in which you can build self-confidence and get rid of your feelings of inferiority.

  10. Specifically name some of the 'drawbacks' of basing your self-worth on human evaluation.

  11. Tell specifically the advantages of deriving your self-worth on the basis of divine evaluation.

  12. Tell how, deriving a sense of self-worth from God alone, takes care of feelings of inferiority, feelings or guilt, feelings of anxiety, and feelings of hostility against one another.

  13. What is likely the root cause of feelings of deep insecurity?

  14. What is the motivation for thanking God for your personal limitations as well as your personal assets?

  15. How do you maintain your love for God, in light of your persistent imperfections and limitations which you observe in the 'frame' with which He created you?

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Freedom From Jealousy

Freedom From Jealousy

Chapter Five

Freedom From Jealousy
Facing The Problem Of Jealousy 40 Rejoicing In Your God-Ordained Place 44
Destructiveness Of Jealousy 41 Enjoying The 'Smile Of God's Approval' 45
Steps Towards Deliverance From Jealousy 42 Discussion Questions 46
Re-Channeling Your Tendency Towards Comparisons 43    

Mark 10:35-45; 1 Corinthians 13:4

Facing The Problem Of Jealousy

"Oscar Wilde used to tell a fable… The Devil was once crossing the Libyan Desert when he came upon a group of small fiends who were tempting a holy hermit. They tried him with the seductions of the flesh; they sought to sow his mind with doubts and fears; they told him that all his austerities were worth nothing. But it was of no avail. The holy man was impeccable. Then the Devil stepped forward. Addressing the imps he said, 'Your methods are too crude. Permit me for one moment. This is what I would recommend.' Going up to the hermit he said, 'Have you heard the news? Your brother has been made Bishop of Alexandria.' The fable says 'A scowl of malignant jealousy clouded the serene face of the holy man.'" (Daily Readings; Sangster; pg. 200)

The Bible tells us to weep with those who weep and to rejoice with those who rejoice (Romans 12:15). Why is it that we find it sometimes harder to rejoice with the rejoicing ones than to weep with the weeping ones? Because we cannot envy people's sorrows, but it is easy to envy people's joy.

Notes William Barclay, "It may be said that envy is the last sin to die. It reared its ugly head even in the apostolic band. The other ten were envious of James and John, when these two had seemed to steal a march upon them in the matter of precedence in the coming Kingdom (Mark 10:41). Even at the last supper the disciples were disputing about who should occupy the seats of greatest honor (Luke 22:24). So long as self remains active within a man's heart there will be envy in his life. E.G. Selwyn calls envy 'the constant plague of all voluntary organizations, not least religious organizations.' C.E.B. Cranfield says that 'we do not have to be engaged in what is called 'church work' very long to discover what a perennial source of trouble envy is.' Envy can only die when self dies." (Daily Study Bible; I Peter; pg. 225)

"We may define this vice as pain, grief, or annoyance felt at the happiness, success, or fortune of another; displeasure or regret aroused by the superiority of another – plus a certain degree of malice or malignity am a desire to depreciate the person envied… It was the secret hurt you felt when somebody with whom you had matched yourself in thought or with whom others matched you, surpassed you or was considered to have surpassed you. It was the secret elation and gloating you found in your heart when he stumbled and fell. That was jealousy! It is deadly in its nature and can cast a long shadow over the whole of life." (Secret of Radiant Living; Sangster; pg. 94)

"Father, help me to rejoice with those who rejoice as well as to weep with those who weep. Enable me to take genuine pleasure in the success of others, regardless of the degree of success I am allowed to enjoy. Uproot the ugly weed of jealousy from my heart and plant in its place the beautiful flower of good will and love. In Jesus' magnanimous name. Amen"

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: Learning to appreciate others without envy makes my inward world peaceful and my outward world grateful!

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1 Samuel 18:1-16

Destructiveness Of Jealousy

What is the context from which jealousy arises? "The people we do not know am who completely outshine us do not provoke us to this sin. It is the people whom we do know, who move in the same circle, and who just surpass us, who unconsciously set the trap into which we fall. Let any man, therefore, eager to be on guard against this subtle vice, watch himself in his estimation of those who are doing the same work that he is doing, am doing it in the same circle. Let him mount a DOUBLE guard over himself when he hears them praised – even though the praise may honestly sound extravagant to him. Saul's jealousy of David may already have been a spark in his heart before the women shouted, but it flared into flame at the feminine cry: 'Saul has slain his thousands, but David his tens of thousands.'" (Secret of Radiant Living; Sangster; pg. 95,96)

Jealousy destroys physical health. Proverbs 14:30 says, "A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones."

Envy and jealousy are destructive because they cause one to strive for places of eminence and superiority, thus causing mental stress. In his popular book 'None of These Diseases', Dr. S. McMillan notes: "Psychic turmoil, arising out of our desires to go to the moon or to attain superiority over our fellows, is very common. An outstanding psychiatrist, Dr. Alfred Adler, taught that most modern nervous and emotional disorders grow out a definite striving for power. Because the average man in his mad drive to power is in a daily race with others for earthly goals, his day is full of failures, frustrations, banged-up feelings and, often, fenders… Is it not a pity that we are cursed with an innate urge to be ever madly racing with one another like the participants in a stock car race? In our excitement to be first we become oblivious to the damage we inflict on others and ourselves. The stock cars that are battered, banged, dented, and noisy are no worse off than bruised humanity broken down with many a disease from life's competitions." (pg. 133,134)

Jealousy destroys human relationships. Envy can spoil friendships and destroy old fellowships. "Anger is cruel and fury overwhelming, but who can stand before jealousy?" (Proverbs 27:4) ''We lived in malice and envy, being hated and hating one another." (Titus 3:3) Envy breeds hatred, resentment.

Jealousy robs one of his own just joy, because he is obsessed with the greater triumphs of others. A little boy is overcome with joy when he receives his new bike for Christmas, but returns after riding it for one hour, all disgruntled. When his parents inquire where his joy has gone, he replies, "George has been given a bicycle too. It is a better one than mine. It has a three-speed gear."

"God, don't let me go through life begrudging others of their happiness and success, am at the same time losing my own joy and contentment. Deliver me from my mad pursuit for success and recognition based on a competition with others. Help me to be neither the object or the subject of jealousy, but to live at peace with all men. In Jesus' name. Amen."

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: Outdoing one another in showing love and in demonstrating generosity is the only kind of competition that is acceptable am worthy.

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Matthew 20:20-28

Steps Towards Deliverance From Jealousy

Christ alone can deliver one from jealousy. Step by step, let us note how this deliverance is accomplished. Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus. The battle against jealousy is won in the mind.

First, see the possibility of deliverance through Christ alone who never envied another. His denunciation of the Pharisees is not a manifestation of envy. Rather, His denunciations are manifestations of fierce love – love that sought to shatter the complacent and hardened hearts of self-deceived and self-righteous hypocrites.

When Jesus stated that the foxes have holes and the birds have nests but that the Son of Man hath not a pillow to lay his head on, Jesus was not revealing self-pity or envy. Rather, the Son of Man was stating the fact of divine love – love so great that sacrifice became the norm for the Master, and such sacrifice would become the norm for His followers.

He in whom no trace of envy and jealousy can be found, is the same who is able to deliver man from the crippling disease of jealousy. The first step towards deliverance is to understand that Christ is the one who alone is able to deliver.

Secondly, honestly face your personal need for deliverance. No physician can help a man who denies his disease and thus refuses treatment. As Sangster notes, "It is humiliating to admit it, and pride rebels at the idea that I should be jealous of him. 'Jealous? Me? Of him?!"' Denial of the problem cannot solve the problem.

Third, re-channel your tendency towards comparison with others. To constantly compare yourself with others is to do yourself great harm. God accepts you just as you are and therefore you don't need to build up your ego by comparing yourself with others in a less favorable condition than you, and you don't need to plunge yourself into despair or into jealousy by comparing yourself with others who appear to be in a much more favorable condition than you.

Unfortunate1y, competition and comparison is a common way of life in America. We compare mind with mind. We compare bank account with bank account. We compare beauty with beauty. We compare achievement with achievement. We pit wit against wit to outdo our fellows. We try to prove that our city, our church, our doctrines, our political concepts, and our ball teams, etc., etc., are the best! This tendency towards power, popularity, dominance, and leadership breeds envy, strife, and jealousy. The musical expresses this spirit of comparison and strife: 'Anything you can do, I can do better!' Competition and comparison breed jealousy!

"O God, I confess that jealousy is a serious problem in my life. Help me to rest secure in your unconditional love for me, and to know that I don't have to 'prove' myself worthy of your acceptance through performance and achievement in a world of competitive striving. Amen."

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: To love all and to serve all is Christ's command and my privilege!

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1 Peter 2:1-3

Re-Channeling Your Tendency Towards Comparisons

Christ calls us to humble service, not to vain striving for glory and for honor among our peers. Said Jesus, "Don't you ever be called 'Rabbi' – you have only one Teacher, and all of you are brothers… and you must not let people call you 'leaders' – you have only one leader, Christ! The only 'superior' among you is the one who serves the others. For every man who promotes himself will be humbled, and every man who learns to be humble will find promotion." (Matthew 23:8, Matthew 23:10-12) (Phillips)

Dr. McMillan tells of a young woman who wanted to go to college. "Her heart sank when she read one question on the application blank: 'Are you a leader?' Being a conscientious girl she wrote 'NO' and sent in the form with a heavy heart. To her surprise she received a letter from one of the college officials which read something like this: 'A study of the application blanks reveals that this year our college will have 1452 leaders. Therefore, we are accepting you because we feel it is imperative that they have ONE follower.'"

Dr. McMillan goes on to say: "We are living in a day when it is not difficult to find people who want to be head cook, but few are available to wash dishes. There are always several hundreds of girls who yearn to ride in the parade as the beautiful queen, but sometimes only a disgruntled half dozen will agree to decorate the float. Organizations have never lacked those who want to be boss carpenters, but they have had to search for men to drive nails and saw boards." (None of These Diseases; pg. 136,137)

'Competition for the top spot' – this too often describes the mood of our modern age. Competition breeds jealousy!

There is another movement in our day which breed-s jealousy – the striving for equality. Notes Malcolm Muggeridge, "The notion of equality has been one of the very destructive forces in our society. We're not equals, we're brothers and sisters. It's quite a different thing. And it's that Christian notion of being brothers and sisters that has been an enormous stabilizing influence on the western world. But the minute you begin to follow this fantasy of equality, you don't produce a loving relationship among people, you produce hideous rivalries and envies, which God knows our society reflects. Each person is watching out and trying to see if the other person is getting more than he is, and even whether others are getting more out of life." Comparing ourselves with others can lead to either pride or to envy, depending upon the outcome of that comparison. The spirit of pride and the spirit of envy are neither the spirit of Christ!

"Father, help me to compare myself with Christ alone, not with other people. Comparing myself with Christ alone delivers me from stress due to peer comparisons and delivers me from complacency due to easy satisfaction with personal, present attainments. Amen."

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: God will help me to re-channel my strong impulse towards many outward comparisons with men, to one upward comparison with Christ!

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John 21:15-23

Rejoicing In Your God-Ordained Place

We are continuing to look at the steps towards deliverance from jealousy. So far, we have looked at three: (1) See the possibility of deliverance through Christ alone who never envied another, (2) Honestly face your personal need for deliverance, and (3) Re-channel your tendency towards comparison with others.

Fourth, rejoice in the God-ordained place which Christ has for you personally. "Christ is able to convince us that each one of us has a place in the plan of God and that his plan is best. Being convinced of that, we envy no one. We can only wish them well in the working out of God's plan for them." (The Secret of Radiant Life; Sangster; pg. 98) God has a place for all in His great family. God has a work for each to do, and each work is important to God.

The Church is likened unto a human body. All members of the Body are different, but each member is dependent upon all the others. There is no need for any member to compare itself with any other member, for each member has a different function and each member is needed for the healthy functioning of the entire Body.

"The last recorded conversation between Jesus and Peter in John's Gospel finds Peter trifling with the wrong kind of comparison and unduly concerned about the destiny of John. 'What about him, Lord?", he said. 'What does that matter to you? Follow me yourself!', replied Jesus. (Ibid; pg. 98)

"To every envious soul, wanting to know why others should have things they do rot have, Jesus would say: 'What does it matter to you? Follow me yourself.'" (Ibid; pg. 98)

The strong instinct towards comparison and competition must be transformed into the instinct towards compassion, caring, and complementation. Wrote Paul, "Live together in harmony, live together in love, as though you had only one mind and one spirit between you. Never act from motives of rivalry or personal vanity, but in humility think more of each other than you do of yourselves." (Philippians 2:2-3 Phillips) 'Each for all, and all for each' – this spells harmony! If there is to be comparisons among yourselves as Christians, then "in humility think more of each other than you do of yourselves." A great antidote against envy and jealousy is learning to enjoy others and learning to enjoy giving preference and honor to others. The only competition, worthy of the name of Christ, is the competition of love – seeking to outdo one another in acts of compassion and love!

"Father, your will is my peace. wanting at times to change my place with that of another, I confess that I have doubted your infinite wisdom and personal love for me. Help me not to envy another, but gladly follow you, even to death by martyrdom if necessary!"

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: I will rejoice in the God-ordained place which God has given to me and rot envy God's place for someone else!

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2 Corinthians 10:12-18

Enjoying The 'Smile Of God's Approval'

The fifth step in overcoming envy and jealousy is this: Realize that Christ can take away the desire for the approval and praise of the Crowd – the source of much envy – and that Christ can replace this desire with the sole desire for the praise and approval of God.

"No man remains envious who really sets his whole heart on the approval of heaven because that secures an independence of the praise and blame of earth. The simplest servant of the kingdom, quietly confident that he is doing his best, may feel the smile of God upon him. There is no richer reward in store for anyone… Being sure of God's approval no man need envy the praise of earth.

'The Master praises; what are men?' 
(Daily Readings; Sangster; pg. 221)

Never focus on the praise of men or on the criticism of men. Rather, concentrate on living 'peaceful and quiet lives in all godliness and holiness." (1 Timothy 2:2) Focusing on God rather than on men will keep one free from envy and jealousy.

Last, remember that any person "enjoying a high measure of success ought to carry it lightly and not stress his capacity to excel." (The Secret of Radiant Life; Sangster; pg. 99) Play down your successes. Emphasize long-time brotherhood. Don't magnify new differences in status or attainments or successes. Seek to live in love and harmony with all. Never deliberately provoke envy in another, either through overt remarks of conceit or through actions of pride. "Let your love be perfectly sincere… allowing one another to enjoy preference of honor." (Romans 12:9 Berkeley) Says Proverbs 27:2, "Let another praise you, and not your own mouth; someone else, and not your own lips." In other words, 'Don't toot your own horn!"

In considering the subject of jealousy, it is helpful for us to conduct the following spiritual check-up on ourselves.

"Have I a secret longing always to be first? or can I truly say that I don't care who is second, third or fourth, so long as Jesus is first?

"Do I want God's cause to advance, or is my chief desire that I should advance?

"Can I hear my colleagues praised and sincerely enjoy it?

"Can I hear others praised for what I have done for God and still be more glad that it was done than grieved to be neglected?

"Am I willing to take my wages in Christian service from God alone?

"Am I after anything for myself?" (Daily Readings; Sangster; pg. 31)

"Father, deliver me from boasting of work done by others and from resentment when others boast of work done by me. Help me to die, both to the praise and to the blame of men, and study only to show myself approved of God. Make me jealous only for your smile of approval on my life! In Jesus' conquering name! Amen."

AFFIRMATION FOR THE DAY: Enjoying the smile of God upon my life and work, I can always bear the scorn of men!

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Discussion Questions On 'Freedom From Jealousy'

  1. Why is it that we find it sometimes harder to rejoice with the rejoicing ones than to weep with the weeping ones (Romans 12:15)?

  2. How would you define envy or jealousy?

  3. Why is envy such a common problem among those who engage in 'Church Work'?

  4. What is the context from which jealousy often arises?

  5. In what ways is jealousy destructive of physical health, of mental health, and of loving human relationships?

  6. List six steps in overcoming the enemy of jealousy.

  7. In what ways are competition and comparison the breeding grounds for jealousy?

  8. Why is 'striving for equality' a breeding ground for jealousy?

  9. Do you agree or disagree with the following statement: "God has a place for all in His great family. God has a work for each to do, and each work is important to God." Do you believe that the attitude contained in this statement will help one to cope with feelings of jealousy? Why? or Why Not?

  10. In terms of observable behavior, what is the difference between living a life based on comparison and competition and a life based on compassion, caring, and complementation?

  11. Do you agree or disagree with the following statement: "The only competition, worth of the name of Christ, is the competition of love – seeking to outdo one another in acts of compassion and love!"

  12. How does seeking the approval of God rather than the applause of men help one in being delivered from the problem of jealousy?

  13. Behaviorally speaking, what must one do and how must one act in the presence of his peers to avoid provoking his peers to envy and jealousy?

  14. Can you share an experience in which you were wonderfully delivered from jealousy?

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